In this 20 minute talk, Brene Brown discusses the culture of scarcity. She touches on empathy and how to respond in ways that comfort; she touches on the difference between shame and guilt. Toward the end of the talk, she says, regarding talking to our children: "You're a great kid. That was a bad choice." I am posting here for us because I think it will help us stay centered, will help us stay steady state as we come through times when we just don't know how to do this. Cedar
This is wonderful! Thanks for sharing. I need to see it a few times; there are some big concepts being discussed and lots to think about. I've got the separation of self from behavior down pretty well and it's a message I make sure to repeat often to my difficult grandson. My worry is that will I be believed over the messages the child in trouble receives from an abusive parent, a harsh principal, a socially powerful and bullying classmate? That's scary for me.
