Talked to difficult child yesterday. I asked her how she was doing and she said she was alive and so she couldn't complain. I asked her about her job and she groaned, asked about the room mate and living situation and again she groaned. She sounded pretty down and out, not chipper as she was when she made this decision. I asked her if she was ready for treatment and she said possibly. Truth is, I think she is running out of options. I don't believe she really has this job, or had this ideal room mate situation lined up. Rehab would do SO much good for her and her life!! I wish she would realize this. Anyway, I really, really really want her in treatment. I cannot force her to go, but the judge can and I believe he will. Especially when we have insurance and want her to go. I found a dual treatment facility that is about an hour away from us and takes our insurance. She is being brought in front of the judge for failed probation (failed another drug test and had quite the actress bit going swearing she hasn't done any drugs) but it will be a few months before we get in court. I do NOT want to wait that long. I also know it would completely hoover for any one to have to spend the holidays in rehab. So, I had an idea. What if we bribed her into going? I thought about telling her if she goes into treatment and successfully goes through the program, we will get her her first car for Christmas. She would have to get a job to get it registered and insured but it would be a great thing to have waiting for her when she got out. A great start for a new life? A way to get to a job every day, have responsibility, etc. All of you parents here are so grounded. What do you think? Are you against bribery for treatment or feel what ever it takes to get her in?