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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 702881" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Copa, I'm reading along here too.......there is not much I can add, you are in that really crummy drivers seat we parents often end up in, where wherever you turn, or so it seems, there will be losses, there will be struggles, there will be pain, pain not only for us, but for our kids too....... so where exactly do you drive to? I saw myself driving in circles for a long time, just not knowing what to do.</p><p></p><p>You have choices to make.......and only you can make them after you agonize over all the issues......one small step at a time......you've done well with that........and we ALL backtrack in this enabling universe. Backwards, sideways and upside down.</p><p></p><p>You're doing the best you can right now......I think you might try to acknowledge that, you've made great strides since you've been here......and now you''re at another level of the process, it would be so great if it were linear and clear, but it's all over the map and extremely unclear.....walking through the FOG, blindfolded, shoeless, without a map or a flashlight......only your instincts to guide you. Your instincts are good. You'll find your way to detachment or you'll find a way which works for you......I think you can trust yourself to make the right calls as they come up......you've done that each time. </p><p></p><p>In the meantime, my suggestion to you, which is what I have to say to myself a lot, is NOURISH yourself......nurture yourself.....love yourself......When I can accept myself and take care of me, I usually find clarity begins to return and I become equipped to make choices, especially the difficult ones.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there, this too shall pass and you will find your way......as you always have......</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 702881, member: 13542"] Copa, I'm reading along here too.......there is not much I can add, you are in that really crummy drivers seat we parents often end up in, where wherever you turn, or so it seems, there will be losses, there will be struggles, there will be pain, pain not only for us, but for our kids too....... so where exactly do you drive to? I saw myself driving in circles for a long time, just not knowing what to do. You have choices to make.......and only you can make them after you agonize over all the issues......one small step at a time......you've done well with that........and we ALL backtrack in this enabling universe. Backwards, sideways and upside down. You're doing the best you can right now......I think you might try to acknowledge that, you've made great strides since you've been here......and now you''re at another level of the process, it would be so great if it were linear and clear, but it's all over the map and extremely unclear.....walking through the FOG, blindfolded, shoeless, without a map or a flashlight......only your instincts to guide you. Your instincts are good. You'll find your way to detachment or you'll find a way which works for you......I think you can trust yourself to make the right calls as they come up......you've done that each time. In the meantime, my suggestion to you, which is what I have to say to myself a lot, is NOURISH yourself......nurture yourself.....love yourself......When I can accept myself and take care of me, I usually find clarity begins to return and I become equipped to make choices, especially the difficult ones. Hang in there, this too shall pass and you will find your way......as you always have...... [/QUOTE]
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