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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 702885" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Thank you everybody.</p><p>You know, RE, for the longest time we have wanted to leave our town and go East and just be young travelers again, trying out someplace new. We would still keep our property here so we could come back, without losses.</p><p></p><p>What has stopped us is: I was in bed!! And now we have been fixing the other property which goes on and on and on. But we are close! Maybe not weeks, but 2 or 3 months. The idea I had in the back of my mind is I would leave my son with the animals. Which on the face of it, is kind of nutty, because so many of our issues with him involve his letting the animals destroy everything, no matter what we ask. (Not to mention the last time we came back when he took care of the animals, we had some new ones--maggots all over the floor!)</p><p></p><p>But this would we one way that I could conceive of letting him stay for a bit longer--he has said his intent is not to stay long term. He says he has a plan. He wants to stay and take it "day by day." I asked, <em>what does a day do? It all starts with a day at a time, </em>he said.</p><p></p><p>I mean, the worst that could happen is the house is destroyed.</p><p>You are right. But on the other hand, I feel like why is it me who has to make them. <em>It is his life</em>. Is this not what is the unifying and central problem for each of us and all of us?</p><p></p><p>That the force us to make impossible decisions. Sophie's Choice decisions. Arm or leg decisions. I do not want to decide in a way that will hurt him and myself.</p><p></p><p>I want it to be purely decide for me. For the good of myself and M. Which is to get out of Dodge. Quickly.</p><p>Yes.</p><p>Yes. I can see how this is so. I am letting myself drown again. I have to find a way to find my footing and stabilize.</p><p></p><p>Thank you RE. Thank you everybody: Lil, dame, Maisy, Seeking, A Dad, Apple, Annie, everybody. Thank you very much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 702885, member: 18958"] Thank you everybody. You know, RE, for the longest time we have wanted to leave our town and go East and just be young travelers again, trying out someplace new. We would still keep our property here so we could come back, without losses. What has stopped us is: I was in bed!! And now we have been fixing the other property which goes on and on and on. But we are close! Maybe not weeks, but 2 or 3 months. The idea I had in the back of my mind is I would leave my son with the animals. Which on the face of it, is kind of nutty, because so many of our issues with him involve his letting the animals destroy everything, no matter what we ask. (Not to mention the last time we came back when he took care of the animals, we had some new ones--maggots all over the floor!) But this would we one way that I could conceive of letting him stay for a bit longer--he has said his intent is not to stay long term. He says he has a plan. He wants to stay and take it "day by day." I asked, [I]what does a day do? It all starts with a day at a time, [/I]he said. I mean, the worst that could happen is the house is destroyed. You are right. But on the other hand, I feel like why is it me who has to make them. [I]It is his life[/I]. Is this not what is the unifying and central problem for each of us and all of us? That the force us to make impossible decisions. Sophie's Choice decisions. Arm or leg decisions. I do not want to decide in a way that will hurt him and myself. I want it to be purely decide for me. For the good of myself and M. Which is to get out of Dodge. Quickly. Yes. Yes. I can see how this is so. I am letting myself drown again. I have to find a way to find my footing and stabilize. Thank you RE. Thank you everybody: Lil, dame, Maisy, Seeking, A Dad, Apple, Annie, everybody. Thank you very much. [/QUOTE]
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