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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 638789" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>By the way, like your husband also mine is more gullible one especially when it comes to our kids. Part of it 8is, that he really is more trusting person than I am, but I have also always suspected that it is, because he doesn't want to catch their lies. You know, if you are aware of an issue, you should actually do something to it. If you don't know about it, it is always possible it fixes itself before it blows up to your face. And last winter I almost convinced myself that my husband is doing it in purpose. His insisting that difficult child was certainly telling us the truth about how he almost got himself killed and the absolute denial to even consider that the story was suspicious required so much suspension of disbelief that I find it totally unbelievable that someone as smart as my husband really bought it. But by believing the story he could consider difficult child having such a close call to be about idiotic recklessness and that is something one can deal with by being angry and yelling and railing about it. Even half-arsed suicide attempt there he did change his mind mid-flight is quite a lot more complicated matter and much more difficult for husband to handle emotionally. Even now that difficult child has actually admitted it to also husband, husband seems to rather half think that first story was true even if it had more holes than Swiss cheese to begin with. </p><p></p><p>Of course I would be lying, if I would claim that this is true only with my husband. I have to admit I do it myself. When I really hope that some lie of difficult child's is true, I can be quite blind. That is how those huge deals got away from me. They were things that really took the wind out of me, things that have caused me countless sleepless nights, anxiety attacks, loosing several pounds after finally hearing about them, because I was not able to eat or I ended up puking every time I even thought about them. Of course can't help but wonder if it would had made any difference, if I had actually been on the top of it sooner instead of believing difficult child's lies or omission of information and so leaving him to cope with those things on his own. Maybe not.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 638789, member: 14557"] By the way, like your husband also mine is more gullible one especially when it comes to our kids. Part of it 8is, that he really is more trusting person than I am, but I have also always suspected that it is, because he doesn't want to catch their lies. You know, if you are aware of an issue, you should actually do something to it. If you don't know about it, it is always possible it fixes itself before it blows up to your face. And last winter I almost convinced myself that my husband is doing it in purpose. His insisting that difficult child was certainly telling us the truth about how he almost got himself killed and the absolute denial to even consider that the story was suspicious required so much suspension of disbelief that I find it totally unbelievable that someone as smart as my husband really bought it. But by believing the story he could consider difficult child having such a close call to be about idiotic recklessness and that is something one can deal with by being angry and yelling and railing about it. Even half-arsed suicide attempt there he did change his mind mid-flight is quite a lot more complicated matter and much more difficult for husband to handle emotionally. Even now that difficult child has actually admitted it to also husband, husband seems to rather half think that first story was true even if it had more holes than Swiss cheese to begin with. Of course I would be lying, if I would claim that this is true only with my husband. I have to admit I do it myself. When I really hope that some lie of difficult child's is true, I can be quite blind. That is how those huge deals got away from me. They were things that really took the wind out of me, things that have caused me countless sleepless nights, anxiety attacks, loosing several pounds after finally hearing about them, because I was not able to eat or I ended up puking every time I even thought about them. Of course can't help but wonder if it would had made any difference, if I had actually been on the top of it sooner instead of believing difficult child's lies or omission of information and so leaving him to cope with those things on his own. Maybe not. [/QUOTE]
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