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Bullying by peers even worse for mental health than abuse by parents
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 655800" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Suz, I think what you said is right except that I can't see how a nice kid can be a bully. A bystander, yes. A bully, no. What they do, and they know it, is ruin the other child's life in school and that is learned early. They know it. The bystanders are afraid of the bully, which is why they stand by, although there are plenty of adult bystanders too in adult bullying.</p><p></p><p>I think the bullied kids are most often the vulnerable and shy who don't have strong back up. Bullies are basically cowards. They take on single kids, not groups. Heck, THEY don't want to get hurt! I learned that once I started fighting back, and I did not use my fists. I just said stuff that made the bullie's friends sort of giggle at the bully, as they had once been giggling at me...I did not have a ton of people behind me, but I did have one very close friend who not only was beautiful (very important in high school), but had a huge mouth that intimidated people.</p><p></p><p>In my case, while I never forgot the elementary school bullying because you don't, it has had less of an impact on my life than my at home bullying. In the end, those abusers were strangers, not family, people whom I wanted to love me. But bullying is terrible and I don't know what can be done to stop it. We have some huge schools in the U.S. and there is no way authority figures can keep track of all the bullying that goes on. I hear some awful stories, with the one about the deaf child being the worst.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 655800, member: 1550"] Suz, I think what you said is right except that I can't see how a nice kid can be a bully. A bystander, yes. A bully, no. What they do, and they know it, is ruin the other child's life in school and that is learned early. They know it. The bystanders are afraid of the bully, which is why they stand by, although there are plenty of adult bystanders too in adult bullying. I think the bullied kids are most often the vulnerable and shy who don't have strong back up. Bullies are basically cowards. They take on single kids, not groups. Heck, THEY don't want to get hurt! I learned that once I started fighting back, and I did not use my fists. I just said stuff that made the bullie's friends sort of giggle at the bully, as they had once been giggling at me...I did not have a ton of people behind me, but I did have one very close friend who not only was beautiful (very important in high school), but had a huge mouth that intimidated people. In my case, while I never forgot the elementary school bullying because you don't, it has had less of an impact on my life than my at home bullying. In the end, those abusers were strangers, not family, people whom I wanted to love me. But bullying is terrible and I don't know what can be done to stop it. We have some huge schools in the U.S. and there is no way authority figures can keep track of all the bullying that goes on. I hear some awful stories, with the one about the deaf child being the worst. [/QUOTE]
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