This has come up lately and I thought maybe we can have a discussion about it because I don't get it. How many here have bought a difficult child a car, old or new? If so, why? Since most substance abuse or are very reckless drivers or both, aren't you afraid they'll die in a car accident? That was a huge concern of mine with Daughter. Also, she did not have her own car. She drove ours. So...why do they need their own car? Do you feel safe with them on the road? Am I missing something, but do you feel you SHOULD buy your kids cars? I have never understood this and am honestly curious as to what parents think when they buy cars or offer cars to kids who are obviously irresponsible and probably at least smoking pot or drinking? I never understood all the new cars in the parking lots at our high school. I always thought "Why?" The closest we have come to giving a car to any of our kids was Jumper. I gave her my van to take to college. So I guess we did give her a car, although she has to keep it up and put gas in with the money she has from school. She drives sparingly as she isn't reckless and so far never had even a dent in our car. It is actually a twelve year old van. Since my hubby is a car mechanic our vehicles last forever. Ok, can somebody make me understand? I really don't get it. It's not like we can trust most of our difficult children to put on their seat belts, drive the speed limit, and not have road rage. I am not trying to point fingers. I have always wondered about this question, not just on this forum but in real life. So many kids I know have cracked up their cars and some keep getting other ones and some don't. And, of course, a few of those I know who use drugs DO work and buy beaters and they pay their own insurance too and are a hazard on the road. I got hit by such a kid a few years ago. His parents called me and begged to settle without insurance getting involved.