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<blockquote data-quote="dayatatime" data-source="post: 638020" data-attributes="member: 17805"><p>Yeah, 16. That is the whole crux of the matter.</p><p></p><p>The place called me back and apparently, some kick dumped a bowl of cereal on his head the other day then he stood, as if to slug the kid, (though assault is not my difficult child's way-- this would have been the first time), but the kid's friend got him first-- hit him the jaw. The place should have called me. But I really don't mind that they didn't--I'm happy to be left alone.</p><p></p><p>The 2 kids involved got kicked out.</p><p></p><p>I think this is the incident that changed his perspective and, obviously, it's not cool. He was bullied. The place did take action-- had my kid checked medically and expelled the 2 other kids…. </p><p></p><p>My difficult child has put himself into that situation. He's put himself in a place where stuff like this happens. Is it ok, no, but it's not within my control, and I am not going to try and fix it by letting him leave.</p><p></p><p>The woman I spoke to tad me she felt threatened by my kid (as he had been threatening me on the phone-- she shut the call down), that he doesn't do rules, and it is likely that he did somehow instigate the incident… I don't want to be victim-blaming with him, and he is in the role of the victimized, but I have to assume he did contribute.</p><p></p><p>Apparently, they are also having trouble with him requesting to see the MD, I just found out. He always wants new medications or the change medications…. he loves doctors and drugs and hospitals…. we go to the ER all the freaking time-- because I can't quite deny him medical attention and I never know if it's a for real thing…. And that frustrating bit where he is 16, so I have to stop my life and go with him…</p><p></p><p>But they say the MD can't keep seeing him everyday.</p><p></p><p>Clearly everything is about the spiral. The director is supposed to call me tomorrow. I left word that I don't want him back. And that when they do discharge him, I want him discharged to a longer term placement. In a way, I am grateful to have a difficult, manipulative, bullying encounter with difficult child on the phone because it made it easy to make the request for the long term placement.</p><p></p><p>What I suspect is about to happen is a lot of discharges until he ends up in a place that can handle conduct disorder. This is old mental health vs substance problem. I don't think substance treatment is going to work because he is too…. difficult child, and there's other stuff that has to be dealt with. If I just basically do what he says and ask nothing of him, we can get along at home, but that is not a solution. </p><p></p><p>We were getting a long for a couple months before he left. I had my head buried in work, was eating microwave or take-out… functioning, but now I can cook because I have clean kitchen and the mental space to prepare food myself. I've gotten exercise, taken time for meditation. Somehow, now, it looks like my behavior indicates that life wasn't so great even when we were doing ok.</p><p></p><p>I think now I need to put on my seatbelt and wait for thing to get worse.</p><p>I do think he will get himself expelled. They told me that they won't do it without warning me in advance, which is good to know. </p><p></p><p>I would be sleepy by now if I hadn't had this upset…. I wish I was sleepy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dayatatime, post: 638020, member: 17805"] Yeah, 16. That is the whole crux of the matter. The place called me back and apparently, some kick dumped a bowl of cereal on his head the other day then he stood, as if to slug the kid, (though assault is not my difficult child's way-- this would have been the first time), but the kid's friend got him first-- hit him the jaw. The place should have called me. But I really don't mind that they didn't--I'm happy to be left alone. The 2 kids involved got kicked out. I think this is the incident that changed his perspective and, obviously, it's not cool. He was bullied. The place did take action-- had my kid checked medically and expelled the 2 other kids…. My difficult child has put himself into that situation. He's put himself in a place where stuff like this happens. Is it ok, no, but it's not within my control, and I am not going to try and fix it by letting him leave. The woman I spoke to tad me she felt threatened by my kid (as he had been threatening me on the phone-- she shut the call down), that he doesn't do rules, and it is likely that he did somehow instigate the incident… I don't want to be victim-blaming with him, and he is in the role of the victimized, but I have to assume he did contribute. Apparently, they are also having trouble with him requesting to see the MD, I just found out. He always wants new medications or the change medications…. he loves doctors and drugs and hospitals…. we go to the ER all the freaking time-- because I can't quite deny him medical attention and I never know if it's a for real thing…. And that frustrating bit where he is 16, so I have to stop my life and go with him… But they say the MD can't keep seeing him everyday. Clearly everything is about the spiral. The director is supposed to call me tomorrow. I left word that I don't want him back. And that when they do discharge him, I want him discharged to a longer term placement. In a way, I am grateful to have a difficult, manipulative, bullying encounter with difficult child on the phone because it made it easy to make the request for the long term placement. What I suspect is about to happen is a lot of discharges until he ends up in a place that can handle conduct disorder. This is old mental health vs substance problem. I don't think substance treatment is going to work because he is too…. difficult child, and there's other stuff that has to be dealt with. If I just basically do what he says and ask nothing of him, we can get along at home, but that is not a solution. We were getting a long for a couple months before he left. I had my head buried in work, was eating microwave or take-out… functioning, but now I can cook because I have clean kitchen and the mental space to prepare food myself. I've gotten exercise, taken time for meditation. Somehow, now, it looks like my behavior indicates that life wasn't so great even when we were doing ok. I think now I need to put on my seatbelt and wait for thing to get worse. I do think he will get himself expelled. They told me that they won't do it without warning me in advance, which is good to know. I would be sleepy by now if I hadn't had this upset…. I wish I was sleepy. [/QUOTE]
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