Shari
IsItFridayYet?
I need some outside perspective, ladies, on another husband thing. Counselor said to call him out on stuff - is this worthy of calling out, or just nitpicking?
I do most of the laundry and usually put it away. Sometimes, I won't get it done before he goes to bed, and he'll put his stuff away. Tonight, that's what he did.
Due to our small house, some clothing items go on a shelf on the wall above the dresser. There's a basket for his socks, another for his underwear, a basket for my socks and underwear. Then my tshirts are folded and stacked on the shelf (I knew it would never work for his, cause he rakes thru them - his shirts are in a drawer). And his work jeans are folded on the shelf. Lately, he has started just wadding the stuff up and sticking it up there. WHile it looks unsightly, I really don't care - until I have to put laundry away, and you can't stack 5 pairs of jeans on top of a tumbling pile and expect them to stay. And if I leave it for him to deal with, he'll just put them somewhere else - like on my sewing table.
Tonight, he had 3 tshirts and undies to put away, and he just wadded them up and put them all on top of his undies basket because the raked-thru shirt drawer will no longer accomodate anything else without cramming (and yes, if they are folded, all shirts will fit easily into the drawer).
So, while I can continue to throw undies on the pile without it toppling, its just time before I can't. So, do I say something now, and call him out, or am I nitpicking at this point, and need to just let it be?
(And I can't stress enough how much of a NON NEAT FREAK I am...my house is just so dang small you have to use space wisely, or you'll get swallowed up in stuff - my mixing bowls only have to nest cause I only have room for 2 if they don't!!! Otherwise, I wouldn't care! - also why when he didn't "nest" things this winter when he did dishes, he didn't have room to put things away so he just started piling stuff on the table, chairs, and eventually, the floor.)
I do most of the laundry and usually put it away. Sometimes, I won't get it done before he goes to bed, and he'll put his stuff away. Tonight, that's what he did.
Due to our small house, some clothing items go on a shelf on the wall above the dresser. There's a basket for his socks, another for his underwear, a basket for my socks and underwear. Then my tshirts are folded and stacked on the shelf (I knew it would never work for his, cause he rakes thru them - his shirts are in a drawer). And his work jeans are folded on the shelf. Lately, he has started just wadding the stuff up and sticking it up there. WHile it looks unsightly, I really don't care - until I have to put laundry away, and you can't stack 5 pairs of jeans on top of a tumbling pile and expect them to stay. And if I leave it for him to deal with, he'll just put them somewhere else - like on my sewing table.
Tonight, he had 3 tshirts and undies to put away, and he just wadded them up and put them all on top of his undies basket because the raked-thru shirt drawer will no longer accomodate anything else without cramming (and yes, if they are folded, all shirts will fit easily into the drawer).
So, while I can continue to throw undies on the pile without it toppling, its just time before I can't. So, do I say something now, and call him out, or am I nitpicking at this point, and need to just let it be?
(And I can't stress enough how much of a NON NEAT FREAK I am...my house is just so dang small you have to use space wisely, or you'll get swallowed up in stuff - my mixing bowls only have to nest cause I only have room for 2 if they don't!!! Otherwise, I wouldn't care! - also why when he didn't "nest" things this winter when he did dishes, he didn't have room to put things away so he just started piling stuff on the table, chairs, and eventually, the floor.)
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