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After difficult child and I got home from shopping husband told him that he needed to try on the jeans that I bought him. OMG!! You would have thought at ww told him to cut his arm off! Cursing. Screaming. Pushed husband. Screaming at me that it's all my fault because I told his father to try to get him to try the clothes on. husband had to restrain him and he told me to call the police.
The officer came really quickly (he was here in five minutes) and he was VERY nice. Spoke calmly to difficult child, who has calmed down be then, for the most part. Officer explained to him that his parents can smack him and restrain him when he becomes unruly. He sat down and took husband's statement and basically told difficult child that he can't curse or scream at his parents. Sometimes he has to do things that he might not like to do, but because we ask it of him he needs to do it. He told him that while he may be too young to get arrested at this point, that if things escalated and the police needed to be called again that there were other places that he would be taken because the police can not allow difficult child to hurt the other memebers of his family. The officer asked difficult child is he was going to have to come back here, because difficult child seemed like a pretty smart guy and he can figure out that if the police have to come back it's not going to be a good thing for him. difficult child said no, he would not need to come back.
The officer leaves, difficult child tries on the clothes, and then starts in on how we shouldn't have called the police and the fact that we did simply means that we don't love him and want him out of the house. Then he started in with how his father needs "to say something" to him (he's looking for an apology). I asked him if he thought he needed to say something to his father. "Like what?" he asked me. I told him that he should apologize to him for cursing and being disrespectful towards him. That's his father and that position deserves respect. "My friends and I curse to each other all the time," he replied and I told him that were not his FRIENDS, we are his PARENTS and we are not spoken to like he speaks to his friends.
He did tell husband that he was sorry, but I think that calling the police did very little in the way of frightening him. He still thinks that he can speak to us in any manner that he sees fit and that he can do whatever he wants whenever he wants, regardless of what we say.
I have a feeling that office will be back at some point in the future.
The officer came really quickly (he was here in five minutes) and he was VERY nice. Spoke calmly to difficult child, who has calmed down be then, for the most part. Officer explained to him that his parents can smack him and restrain him when he becomes unruly. He sat down and took husband's statement and basically told difficult child that he can't curse or scream at his parents. Sometimes he has to do things that he might not like to do, but because we ask it of him he needs to do it. He told him that while he may be too young to get arrested at this point, that if things escalated and the police needed to be called again that there were other places that he would be taken because the police can not allow difficult child to hurt the other memebers of his family. The officer asked difficult child is he was going to have to come back here, because difficult child seemed like a pretty smart guy and he can figure out that if the police have to come back it's not going to be a good thing for him. difficult child said no, he would not need to come back.
The officer leaves, difficult child tries on the clothes, and then starts in on how we shouldn't have called the police and the fact that we did simply means that we don't love him and want him out of the house. Then he started in with how his father needs "to say something" to him (he's looking for an apology). I asked him if he thought he needed to say something to his father. "Like what?" he asked me. I told him that he should apologize to him for cursing and being disrespectful towards him. That's his father and that position deserves respect. "My friends and I curse to each other all the time," he replied and I told him that were not his FRIENDS, we are his PARENTS and we are not spoken to like he speaks to his friends.
He did tell husband that he was sorry, but I think that calling the police did very little in the way of frightening him. He still thinks that he can speak to us in any manner that he sees fit and that he can do whatever he wants whenever he wants, regardless of what we say.
I have a feeling that office will be back at some point in the future.