Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Calm before the storm
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 634302" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Any time we have a choice about being kind, a chance to "pay it forward," especially with our own kids, I think we should do that.</p><p></p><p>Recovering Enabler has given us a way to know whether we are helping (which is the right thing) or enabling, which is wrong both for us and for the kids: </p><p></p><p>We will know we are enabling when we resent what we are offering or providing. </p><p></p><p>Enabling saps the kids' of their potential to learn from their mistakes and do for themselves. It puts us in a kind of one up, justifying, resentful place where we lose respect for ourselves and our kids.</p><p></p><p>I don't see that, here.</p><p></p><p>I see a young kid with problems to work through, a hot temper, a quick tongue, and a good heart.</p><p></p><p>I agree with both Janet and MWM: No cash money. I like the idea of a reloadable card.</p><p></p><p>He left the message about looking for work, about moving out, about how to be independent. Those are all positive things.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 634302, member: 17461"] Any time we have a choice about being kind, a chance to "pay it forward," especially with our own kids, I think we should do that. Recovering Enabler has given us a way to know whether we are helping (which is the right thing) or enabling, which is wrong both for us and for the kids: We will know we are enabling when we resent what we are offering or providing. Enabling saps the kids' of their potential to learn from their mistakes and do for themselves. It puts us in a kind of one up, justifying, resentful place where we lose respect for ourselves and our kids. I don't see that, here. I see a young kid with problems to work through, a hot temper, a quick tongue, and a good heart. I agree with both Janet and MWM: No cash money. I like the idea of a reloadable card. He left the message about looking for work, about moving out, about how to be independent. Those are all positive things. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Calm before the storm
Top