So son has been living out for a few months now and except for a very scary week in September has appeared sober. He wanted to attend a family wedding with us and his grandmother, we just lost his grandfather two weeks prior, so we were driving all four of us. Son told me he would have some drinks and I asked how he could handle that given his addiction? He claims moderation is possible and that abstinence doesn't work for him.... huh? I was a nervous wreck the entire wedding. So was his father. He drank probably six or more beer plus wine at the table. He drank it like water and kept filling up.... ugh. It was embarrassing. He was obviously drunk. No moderation. He passed out in our vehicle on way home and we dropped him at his apartment. I texted him today but he says he is doing school work. I don't think what I saw was moderation. Two beers and a glass of wine .... maybe. But he couldn't stop. I am totally embarrassed as that side of the family didn't know but I'm sure they do now. I honestly felt humiliated. I know it's not that big a deal compared to what we have gone through with him in past but it just made me realize he isn't even close to any kind of long term recovery and doesn't have the ability to see this. He said that he used to drink 24 beers so that was "nothing". Ugh!