CAN husband be trusted???

[DammitJanet]

Im sitting here trying to imagine just what female Tony would be interested in going to meet. He would probably be ok with meeting someone from this board if they called and I wasnt home at the time because he knows who you guys are now. He would meet the wives or girlfriend's of the work crew up at the store where they cash their checks and talk for a few minutes. He would talk to the neighbors of course. Or his relatives.


The only cute little blondes that would catch his eye would be our granddaughters...lol.

 

[everywoman]

Good thing I wasnt typing to EW how I wanted her hot body...lol. JK EW!

n LMBO---Thanks Janet...
Back to you Tammy---I have some trust issues with my husband---but they have never involved another woman. Like Susie---we made a commitment 22 years ago, and I know that man loves and adores me above any other woman made....that being said, I understand the trust issues. I still check my insurance forms and login to my insurance website to see if husband has been "doctor shopping."

Now, on to the facebook/internet thing. I have male friends. Some of my best friends of hs are men. We talk on FB. There is nothing there. I went out to lunch with one over the summer. I see others around town. There is not a chance I would "hook up" with any of them. husband is the biggest flirt on the planet. One of the parents of a student at the high school told me last week, "Mrs. Stevenson, I didn't know your husband was my boyfreind." Women love my husband---he is lovable (and annoying!)

My funniest story is is high school ex showed up one day at the store. He took her next door to meet our daughter---who promptly called me all upset. I told her if her dad was going to cheat on me, he wouldn't bring the other woman to meet his daughter first. He is proud of me and our family and wanted her to see what he has achieved in life....

So, I would ask husband. I would be honest with him. I would tell him that it bothered me.

 

[AnnieO]

Something my husband and I worked out. I've been spending a LOT of time lately with my best friend and his wife (and their kids and ours too, while husband is at work). I asked husband if it bothered him, and of course it was a no. He told me I could do whatever, as long as I didn't lie to him.

Sweet! So I tell him every time. Sometimes I take the kids, sometimes not, sometimes his wife isn't there, sometimes she is. However given past history, whenever she is not there, we always and I mean always meet in a public place. I'm not too worried about it, but I'm not going to upset her or husband either.

 

[ML]

After reading the responses it is clear that everyone's relationships are different. I do believe social networking sites have the potential to create opportunity for flirting that may or may not be harmless. Making in real life relationships successful takes a lot of work and it can be a trap to turn towards friends who don't make demands upon us. I definitely would suggest counseling. I actually gave husband my FB password. He knows he can trust me but I wanted to reassure him that in case he ever had doubts that he was free to access it. Good luck. One question. Why did you take the lesser half of the money? It was nice that you shared but I would have taken the larger half lol

 

[lovemysons]

Thanks all again for the thoughtful responses.

I do think at some point husband and I may need to see a marriage councelor. I suppose I have some apprehension about what our relationship will be like once easy child goes off to college next year and we have no more children at home.

husband is a very involved dad ya know. He is easy child's highschool bowling coach. He is Oldest difficult child's employer and mentor and he recently told me that he would even go to a therapist with young difficult child.

ML...You made me laugh. Ya, I did take the "lesser half" of the casino winnings but if you knew how many thousands of dollars I've gambled away over the last year and half...that husband Gave me, you'd probably do the same. And, yikes, I've already been to the casino 3 times since winning the 3 grand and already lost my share. I am BIG into gambling these days. Wonder if it's a side effect of Abilify...or if it's just me.

Janet...are you suggesting I'm a "cute lil blonde". If so, THANK YOU! lol I needed to hear that.

Hugs and love,
Tammy

 

[DammitJanet]

LOL Tammy...Yes...I remember what you look like! Also, my granddaughters are both blue-eyed, blondes. I was one once...lol.

On the gambling....I dont think its the abilify, I think it is a sign you may be going a bit manic.