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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 722165" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My daughter got her act together so I am on the other side looking back.</p><p></p><p>I never did think she would listen to wisdom or threats. We told her the rules, what she had to do to live in our house. I think talking too much to troubled young people makes them fight us and need to not believe us. Or to prove we are wrong. Rebel against us. This is especially true of pot, but while I would send a kid packing for not working or finishing scool, pot use alone would not be a dealbreaker...many van function on pot and it is almost legal. My daughter was a very high functioning meth and cocaine addict (she worked and was in Cosmetology school). But meth and cocaine and ADHD drugs etc...you cant kill yourself in my house. Sorry.</p><p></p><p>These young people know they are sick, even if they deny it. I think so anyway. No need to rub it in.</p><p></p><p>When I caught my daughter having a pill gala in our house after we came home early from a vacation, well, that was her last chance used up. She was supposed to just be watching our dogs, no friends, and at the time she had convinced us she was clean and sober.</p><p></p><p>Stupid us.</p><p></p><p>She got her walking papers that night. I cried and did not eat or sleep or talk to her much for three weeks to a month. She was sleeping in her very strict brothers basement. </p><p></p><p>She quit using cocaine and meth. She hated living under Goneboys bruising rules...you smoke a cigarette and you are out. You better walk to work, pay rent, clean and cook for him and his friends/tenants. One false move, enjoy the winter streets of Chicago.</p><p></p><p>She decided on her own "drugs are too hard."</p><p></p><p>She was almost 20. She is now 34 and that was the last of her drug saga. She had been on drugs since 12. Yes, 12.</p><p></p><p>My motto is "actions speak louder than words." She never expected to really have to leave. But it did the trick for her. She did not want to be homeless and Goneboy would have thrown her out for a cuss word.</p><p></p><p>I dont believe there are magic words for them. Especially from us. I think it is 100% up to them and our words go in one ear and out the other.</p><p></p><p>Jmo and experience.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 722165, member: 1550"] My daughter got her act together so I am on the other side looking back. I never did think she would listen to wisdom or threats. We told her the rules, what she had to do to live in our house. I think talking too much to troubled young people makes them fight us and need to not believe us. Or to prove we are wrong. Rebel against us. This is especially true of pot, but while I would send a kid packing for not working or finishing scool, pot use alone would not be a dealbreaker...many van function on pot and it is almost legal. My daughter was a very high functioning meth and cocaine addict (she worked and was in Cosmetology school). But meth and cocaine and ADHD drugs etc...you cant kill yourself in my house. Sorry. These young people know they are sick, even if they deny it. I think so anyway. No need to rub it in. When I caught my daughter having a pill gala in our house after we came home early from a vacation, well, that was her last chance used up. She was supposed to just be watching our dogs, no friends, and at the time she had convinced us she was clean and sober. Stupid us. She got her walking papers that night. I cried and did not eat or sleep or talk to her much for three weeks to a month. She was sleeping in her very strict brothers basement. She quit using cocaine and meth. She hated living under Goneboys bruising rules...you smoke a cigarette and you are out. You better walk to work, pay rent, clean and cook for him and his friends/tenants. One false move, enjoy the winter streets of Chicago. She decided on her own "drugs are too hard." She was almost 20. She is now 34 and that was the last of her drug saga. She had been on drugs since 12. Yes, 12. My motto is "actions speak louder than words." She never expected to really have to leave. But it did the trick for her. She did not want to be homeless and Goneboy would have thrown her out for a cuss word. I dont believe there are magic words for them. Especially from us. I think it is 100% up to them and our words go in one ear and out the other. Jmo and experience. [/QUOTE]
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