Update first: difficult child has been going to college since she ran away from home last Sept. and doing quite well - or so she tells me. She is five hours away so that helps. I "control" her money through a two signature account, so her rent gets paid and she has weekly spending money payable on Monday, which helps curb the weekend parties because she spends it all the first day. The account was set up before she ran away, and college was arranged to be close to home, but she came up with a new impulse and it has sort of worked out. she's only had 2 boyfriends since being there which is amazing. Anyway, she is coming home for Christmas and I am getting in a panic. She is so bossy with the plans and she isn't even here yet. I don't want to spend two weeks catering to her every impulse. Everyplace/person she wants to see is at least an hour away, one way. She doesn't have a vehicle and I'm not giving her mine. Plus - we live in the "cold" and "storms" and she doesn't get that either. I'm looking forward to a peaceful holiday with some time off work to relax and she's looking for excitement. I know I should be so happy, she has done well, we know where she is, she is not drinking in excess, lots is so good, but I'm afraid of close contact where the bad will just shine through. Thanks for listening.