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Can we now talk about boundaries in relation to the word "NO?"
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 627728" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I think both of you, MWM and Cedar are doing an exemplary job of learning how to set boundaries with hurtful people. You are doing it with care and with grace, you are looking at your own responsibility for what has occurred and at the same time recognizing that you must stop hurtful behavior. </p><p></p><p>My experience is that as you go through the process you are both engaged in, as you look at it from so many angles and perspectives, you are working it all out and healing from it. Each pocket of darkness is being brought in to the light now, the recognition of it is what will heal it. Once you are aware of it, once you make a choices about it, to set those boundaries, it will cease to be an issue, it will dissipate. And, you will be stronger, you will be more peaceful and you will carry that internal sense of self with a new dignity which will be apparent to you and to others.</p><p></p><p>It takes courage to make these kinds of changes, it is not easy. However, I have found that the act of saying a resounding NO to what harms us brings forth a sense of our own personal power, not power over as in the case of those you are setting boundaries with, but an internal empowerment which then shines through you to empower others. Being true to ourselves in the midst of a our families of origin, rising above their perceptions of us is powerful stuff, it is making a bold statement of self love and honoring the self. I applaud you both for your commitment to yourselves. Bravo.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 627728, member: 13542"] I think both of you, MWM and Cedar are doing an exemplary job of learning how to set boundaries with hurtful people. You are doing it with care and with grace, you are looking at your own responsibility for what has occurred and at the same time recognizing that you must stop hurtful behavior. My experience is that as you go through the process you are both engaged in, as you look at it from so many angles and perspectives, you are working it all out and healing from it. Each pocket of darkness is being brought in to the light now, the recognition of it is what will heal it. Once you are aware of it, once you make a choices about it, to set those boundaries, it will cease to be an issue, it will dissipate. And, you will be stronger, you will be more peaceful and you will carry that internal sense of self with a new dignity which will be apparent to you and to others. It takes courage to make these kinds of changes, it is not easy. However, I have found that the act of saying a resounding NO to what harms us brings forth a sense of our own personal power, not power over as in the case of those you are setting boundaries with, but an internal empowerment which then shines through you to empower others. Being true to ourselves in the midst of a our families of origin, rising above their perceptions of us is powerful stuff, it is making a bold statement of self love and honoring the self. I applaud you both for your commitment to yourselves. Bravo. [/QUOTE]
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