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Can you forgive him forever?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 742345" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>If I look at it from his point of view, <em>I could see feeling if she loved me, she would want me to be happy. She would care how I feel. </em></p><p><em></em></p><p>I am not saying that this is justified. I am only saying that this is one way that he could justify his stance.</p><p></p><p>I can guess how painful this is. </p><p></p><p>But why do you have to go there, to escalate it? When you first started posting about this you described yourself in terms that were very strong, and that you would hold the line. Where is that resolve now? It is not that I am saying you are folding on your boundary, but you seem to be folding into yourself, collapsing in a way that is more characteristic of ME, not you. </p><p></p><p>You do not have to go there. You know you are right. He does not have to admit defeat. Nor do you. Let him be. Let him spin it how he wants. You spin it how you want. You can do that. And hold your ground. He loves you with all his heart. Love does not go away that easy between a parent and a child. Let him stew. It is his confusion and pain. You don't have to own it.</p><p></p><p>I just would feel sad if you escalated this even in your heart, especially in your heart--if you do not need to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 742345, member: 18958"] If I look at it from his point of view, [I]I could see feeling if she loved me, she would want me to be happy. She would care how I feel. [/I] I am not saying that this is justified. I am only saying that this is one way that he could justify his stance. I can guess how painful this is. But why do you have to go there, to escalate it? When you first started posting about this you described yourself in terms that were very strong, and that you would hold the line. Where is that resolve now? It is not that I am saying you are folding on your boundary, but you seem to be folding into yourself, collapsing in a way that is more characteristic of ME, not you. You do not have to go there. You know you are right. He does not have to admit defeat. Nor do you. Let him be. Let him spin it how he wants. You spin it how you want. You can do that. And hold your ground. He loves you with all his heart. Love does not go away that easy between a parent and a child. Let him stew. It is his confusion and pain. You don't have to own it. I just would feel sad if you escalated this even in your heart, especially in your heart--if you do not need to. [/QUOTE]
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