I have posted before about my difficult child and his girlfriend and their baby. It is not difficult child's bio child although he has been there since the beginning. The baby was born in October and they've been together since he was 2 weeks old. They live together, both have great jobs and both work hard. (Wow, did I just say that about my difficult child?) He takes care of the baby at night when she's at work and she has him during the day. I watch him a lot as well. The tricky situation is the bio father. He had another girlfriend while Z (Let's call her Z) was pregnant. The other "preferred" girlfriend was pregnant as well, the same time. (Can we say all these people are difficult child's) So the bio dad wants nothing to do with Z or the baby (our little guy). He doesn't want to see him on the weekends or anything. It's sad, really. Also, he has never paid child support, but she only went to court a few months ago. The bio dad's parents kept calling Z and telling her that their son should not have to pay for "HER" baby. (Can you imagine the nerve?) (Plus this little baby is a doll!) They would yell and say their son doesn't have a job and then they will be stuck paying for "her baby". She gave it right back to them saying that it's not her problem. Also she demanded that bio dad take the child on the weekends sometimes and she would drive him an hour away and leave him there. I don't know why she did this, I think it's because she wanted to go out on the weekends with difficult child. Twice she had to go to the ER the day she picked him back up, that's another story. Plus she does want that baby to actually know his dad. She is a wonderful, wonderful girl, I love her. Sorry for how long this is getting. So they went to court to establish child support and the bio dad said "Terminate my parental rights.", over and over to the judge. The judge said no at first, but after finding out that bio dad was not at the hospital when the baby had an operation, (hernia and circumcision at 5 months), nor did he even call (!) the judge terminated his rights. The guy didn't want to pay support. BUT.....surprise, the judge said the rights are terminated but the man still has to pay $100 a week. AND him and Z had to meet at the rest stop 30 minutes each in the middle to give each other the baby, he still had to see him every other week. But the guy never has shown up! So, Z DROVE that baby to bio dads house 3 times so far. (my opinion goes here) So, a week or 2 ago a paternity test is done, or the results came in, on the "preferred baby"( not ours). HE IS NOT THE FATHER OF THAT OTHER BABY. He broke up with the girl and has to now move into a flop house drug den because he has no car or job. He told Z he wants to be in our baby's life after all. She doesn't want the baby in a drug house and she went to court on Friday to fill out paperwork because he never paid and never met her a half hour away. What are the chances of the judge reinstating his rights, anyone know? I told difficult child and Z I would take the baby if he doesn't show up. I watch him often, Friday when she went to the courthouse and any time they go out, or their schedules correspond. His family lives in FL. we're in NJ.