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Can you teach a 12 yr old conduct disorder boy to follow rules?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 678521" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Mosr foster kids who are older have attachment disorder and often act out sexually because somewhere they were molested but the memory is so traumatic it can be repressed. Doesnt stop them though from being sexual with other kids. We had a child like that and he scared my little ones so badly with threats to kill them or all of us. My kids did not tell me the truth until we kicked him out. The county (not our idea) tried him with first degree sexual assault of a minor and he was found guilty. We did not attend the hearing. We never wanted to see him again. He did poorly in a semi juvinile center for youth sexual predator. We had adopted him but disrupted that. Never been sorry.</p><p></p><p>If you have younger kids I would call the caseworker and have him transferred to another home. You cant fix someone as old has him already displaying dangerous behaviors. You are risking your kids, your pets and neighborhood kids.</p><p></p><p>Our family was deeply affected by his secret horrors. I never recommend fostering or adopting kids older than your own. Often they are also cruel to animals too although ours put on a "I love these dogs" act in front of us. When our first dog was killed, he cried so hard we did not suspect him. The second dog, well nobody was home but him and me. That is when everything came out.</p><p></p><p>My suggestion is not to destroy your family for a possibly already too damaged child. If you have no young children or pets it will still possiby not change him, but at least nobody in your home is at risk. Except you if he likes knives and has threatened to kill you. Then lock your door at night.</p><p>I would never adopt or foster a child over two years old again.</p><p>Do be careful and we support whatever you decide to do. Have wide open eyes.</p><p>Hugs!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 678521, member: 1550"] Mosr foster kids who are older have attachment disorder and often act out sexually because somewhere they were molested but the memory is so traumatic it can be repressed. Doesnt stop them though from being sexual with other kids. We had a child like that and he scared my little ones so badly with threats to kill them or all of us. My kids did not tell me the truth until we kicked him out. The county (not our idea) tried him with first degree sexual assault of a minor and he was found guilty. We did not attend the hearing. We never wanted to see him again. He did poorly in a semi juvinile center for youth sexual predator. We had adopted him but disrupted that. Never been sorry. If you have younger kids I would call the caseworker and have him transferred to another home. You cant fix someone as old has him already displaying dangerous behaviors. You are risking your kids, your pets and neighborhood kids. Our family was deeply affected by his secret horrors. I never recommend fostering or adopting kids older than your own. Often they are also cruel to animals too although ours put on a "I love these dogs" act in front of us. When our first dog was killed, he cried so hard we did not suspect him. The second dog, well nobody was home but him and me. That is when everything came out. My suggestion is not to destroy your family for a possibly already too damaged child. If you have no young children or pets it will still possiby not change him, but at least nobody in your home is at risk. Except you if he likes knives and has threatened to kill you. Then lock your door at night. I would never adopt or foster a child over two years old again. Do be careful and we support whatever you decide to do. Have wide open eyes. Hugs!!!! [/QUOTE]
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