The boys have just been awful to me, and at the same time demanding this toy and that thing. Every morning easy child & I wake up together, and we have a pleasant morning. He's sweet and we talk "normally" as usual. THEN difficult child gets up, and the entire house changes. Everything he says is either a complaint, a demand, an insult, a name calling, or cussing. I haven't gone a morning without being called some nasty name. I try real hard not to let it bother me, and I even did positive affrimations to myself in my head while driving us into to town yeserday. Well easy child chances the second difficult child is around. easy child copies him, and it's not good. Last night was just awful. They totally ignored me when I told them to stop, they laughed at me when I warned of consequences, and laughed at me when the consequences were then given out. AND easy child even said, "Shut-up B..." I was totally shocked. That is not easy child, that is completely learned from difficult child. Well, easy child got his first soap in the mouth (which I think really sank in). easy child is pretty good at remembering a bad experience like that. So I'm hoping it will last for a while. (I know it won't last forever.) Well difficult child would not stop, and he would not stop laughing at me and taking everything (including me) as a joke. So I kept warning him that he'd lose the previledge of going to the christmas party (at his BMS office, and he'd lose out on any gifts). Well 2 hrs of me giving him chance after chance (cuz I really didn't want to take it away from him), I finally said this is it. I told him that he had a choice, he could either listen and behave and go to the party today, or he could continue like he is and I'd cancel the party for him. Well, even that didn't work. So the party is canceled. Then, they both continued for another 2 hrs. And I told them that if they didn't stop I'd cancel CHRISTMAS. Yep, you guessed it. That didn't do anything, the cussing and name calling continued, and Christmas is officially canceled in our house. All decorations were removed last night, and I'm not buying one thing this year. I can't continue to be treated this way, and then be expected to buy them stuff just becuase of a date or because they want something. Somehow they have to get it through their heads that I'm not going to be treated like dirt, and called FB, Ugly B, etc., and then expect me to buy them things. Has anyone done this? I feel sad and bad about this, but enough is enough. And what's really bad is that easy child is learning all of this from difficult child. Thanks for the vent.