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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 708256" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Ksm, i agree. My husband got permission from his parents to join the Air Force at 17. He aced his GED. He then was trsined as an airline mechanic (very gifted with his hands) and learned to fly skillfully too.And, although not a difficult child, he was lucky his father was a cop so that he was spared tickets when he liked to drag race in high school. So not a goody two shoes.</p><p></p><p>But he was steady and mature. He followed the rules. When his father died of cancer he paid the mortgage on his mothers house so she could recover and get a job when she was ready. She had always stayed home. And he brought her to Germany as a vacation...he was wprried sbout his mother, not consumed with himself. He drank and met girls on his free time, but never touched even pot. They were regularly drug tested. He had no mental health issues and is still very stable.</p><p></p><p>This is not a portrait of our difficult kids unless they radically change. The military wont take just anyone anymore. They are picky. They have to change first, not the other way around...before the military is appropriate.</p><p></p><p>I think the adults represented here are smart, but too defiant to be okay with the very strict unshakable rules the military entails, fresh from waking up at 5am to drug tests to doing things that are not fun.</p><p></p><p>Oh, i know its a dream <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />. But its not realistic for adults who are immature and defiant to jpin the military. I know a lot of people read these forums and this is more for them than any of us. I think most of us realize what I wrote...</p><p></p><p>Another misconception for younger Difficult Child kids is that military schools will straighten out our kids. Um, no. They dont want difficult kids and are more apt to tell you to come get your charge and pack his bags. They are not schools for troubled kids, although many parents think otherwise and learn.</p><p></p><p>I wish you better days, ksm. And do take care of you. We are in the same age bracket. By our ages, we earned our own child rearing purple hearts, and I believe we deserve to relax. We cant live forever and our adult kids will need to do it without us one day. Right now, i say, what about YOUR dreams???</p><p></p><p>Take care <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 708256, member: 1550"] Ksm, i agree. My husband got permission from his parents to join the Air Force at 17. He aced his GED. He then was trsined as an airline mechanic (very gifted with his hands) and learned to fly skillfully too.And, although not a difficult child, he was lucky his father was a cop so that he was spared tickets when he liked to drag race in high school. So not a goody two shoes. But he was steady and mature. He followed the rules. When his father died of cancer he paid the mortgage on his mothers house so she could recover and get a job when she was ready. She had always stayed home. And he brought her to Germany as a vacation...he was wprried sbout his mother, not consumed with himself. He drank and met girls on his free time, but never touched even pot. They were regularly drug tested. He had no mental health issues and is still very stable. This is not a portrait of our difficult kids unless they radically change. The military wont take just anyone anymore. They are picky. They have to change first, not the other way around...before the military is appropriate. I think the adults represented here are smart, but too defiant to be okay with the very strict unshakable rules the military entails, fresh from waking up at 5am to drug tests to doing things that are not fun. Oh, i know its a dream :). But its not realistic for adults who are immature and defiant to jpin the military. I know a lot of people read these forums and this is more for them than any of us. I think most of us realize what I wrote... Another misconception for younger Difficult Child kids is that military schools will straighten out our kids. Um, no. They dont want difficult kids and are more apt to tell you to come get your charge and pack his bags. They are not schools for troubled kids, although many parents think otherwise and learn. I wish you better days, ksm. And do take care of you. We are in the same age bracket. By our ages, we earned our own child rearing purple hearts, and I believe we deserve to relax. We cant live forever and our adult kids will need to do it without us one day. Right now, i say, what about YOUR dreams??? Take care :) [/QUOTE]
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