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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 642073" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Lil...</p><p>It is NOT fair.</p><p>Not for any one of us here on this board.</p><p></p><p>We didn't ask for our difficult child to be wired with multiple layers of problems, challenges, issues and dxes. We didn't ask for a medical system that would not believe or help us. We didn't ask for a school system that destroyed him.</p><p></p><p>Someone on this board used to have something like this in their signature:</p><p>"We did the best we could with what we knew. And when we knew better, we did better."</p><p></p><p>It's hard because <em>we care</em>. It's hard because we have invested more in the outcome than any of the supports that should have been there. We've invested more, usually, than the difficult child kid has. And naturally we want <em>just a little tiny bit back in return</em>.</p><p></p><p>If it gives you any hope at all...</p><p>My difficult child bro went off the deep end at about 14.</p><p>For most of the next 10 years, there were long periods of time where we didn't know where he even was or if he was alive. Then he'd pop up for a bit before vanishing again.</p><p></p><p>And then...</p><p>He sobered up - his call.</p><p>Got a job, saved some money.</p><p>Applied for mature admission to university.</p><p>Got in, graduated.</p><p></p><p>He's still a bit GFGish, but... he IS paying his own way in life, and finding ways to pay it forward to other difficult child people out there who are stuck where he was.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 642073, member: 11791"] Lil... It is NOT fair. Not for any one of us here on this board. We didn't ask for our difficult child to be wired with multiple layers of problems, challenges, issues and dxes. We didn't ask for a medical system that would not believe or help us. We didn't ask for a school system that destroyed him. Someone on this board used to have something like this in their signature: "We did the best we could with what we knew. And when we knew better, we did better." It's hard because [I]we care[/I]. It's hard because we have invested more in the outcome than any of the supports that should have been there. We've invested more, usually, than the difficult child kid has. And naturally we want [I]just a little tiny bit back in return[/I]. If it gives you any hope at all... My difficult child bro went off the deep end at about 14. For most of the next 10 years, there were long periods of time where we didn't know where he even was or if he was alive. Then he'd pop up for a bit before vanishing again. And then... He sobered up - his call. Got a job, saved some money. Applied for mature admission to university. Got in, graduated. He's still a bit GFGish, but... he IS paying his own way in life, and finding ways to pay it forward to other difficult child people out there who are stuck where he was. [/QUOTE]
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