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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 642164" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>You are all such wonderful people. I can't begin to tell you what your words of encouragement mean to me.</p><p> </p><p>So...he started his new job last night. He called yesterday, first wanting a ride to go to the office to fill out papers and then to the state building where he gets his after-hours access badge. I told him that I was working and when I take my lunch it's the same time as when they'll close for lunch, so he'd do better to walk. He walked. One thing I have noticed is if he wants a ride or something and we say that it'll be a couple hours before we're free...he finds another way.</p><p> </p><p>He asked for money. I said I'd think about it. I called back and said no.</p><p> </p><p>His job is just under a mile from the building he cleans (uphill...both ways...actually that's true, it's down a hill then up a hill, so either way he's got a hill to walk lol) and he is graveyard shift. He started at 8 p.m. last night training. At 7:30 I was out and about, and thought I'd give him a ride...called and got no answer so went on to my destination. When he called back I told him I'd been in the neighborhood...but wasn't anymore. He was actually already there - early! Shocked me. I did ask if he remembered to tell the shelter he was working so they'd let him in in the middle of the night. He did, but asked if I'd call to double check. I did and that was all okay. He asked me for food after that. He didn't know how they worked "dinner" on the shift he's on 9 p.m. to 4 a.m. but turns out they have a fridge and microwave they can use. I told him I'd only do it once...after that it's up to him to figure out. So I took McDonald's. His supervisor picked it up at the door and was very nice about it, being his first day and all.</p><p> </p><p>I did tell him about the apartment yesterday...but I don't know anything about it - the terms etc., just that it's cheap, furnished, and close to the bus lines and less than a mile (about 1/2 mile actually) from where he works. But I never considered seriously paying for it or being on the lease. If it's still available when he gets ready to move, then maybe he should look into it. The places he's looking at through the shelter are way too far from where he works and there are no busses in our town after 5:30. But I did my part...I told him. He gets into his email and checks it out or he doesn't.</p><p> </p><p>I know he isn't incapable I guess. He's just so immature and doesn't think...but I know that Jabber's right. Unlike me, who would say, "Oh! That's how it's done!" and never needed a hand again, my son pays no attention if you do something for him and never learns.</p><p> </p><p>With the weather just starting to get bad here...I may be inclined to give him a ride in to work now and then...but getting home is his problem. 4 a.m. is a sucky time to be walking the streets in the rain and snow, but he'll live...it's only a 20 minute walk. I just hope he sticks with it. I'm worried that with the noisy shelter and cruddy hours he'll end up quitting....but that's on him too. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 18px"><span style="font-size: 26px"><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0)">IT'S YOU???</span></span> </span><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/santa.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":santa:" title="santa :santa:" data-shortname=":santa:" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/nonono.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":nonono:" title="nonono :nonono:" data-shortname=":nonono:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 642164, member: 17309"] You are all such wonderful people. I can't begin to tell you what your words of encouragement mean to me. So...he started his new job last night. He called yesterday, first wanting a ride to go to the office to fill out papers and then to the state building where he gets his after-hours access badge. I told him that I was working and when I take my lunch it's the same time as when they'll close for lunch, so he'd do better to walk. He walked. One thing I have noticed is if he wants a ride or something and we say that it'll be a couple hours before we're free...he finds another way. He asked for money. I said I'd think about it. I called back and said no. His job is just under a mile from the building he cleans (uphill...both ways...actually that's true, it's down a hill then up a hill, so either way he's got a hill to walk lol) and he is graveyard shift. He started at 8 p.m. last night training. At 7:30 I was out and about, and thought I'd give him a ride...called and got no answer so went on to my destination. When he called back I told him I'd been in the neighborhood...but wasn't anymore. He was actually already there - early! Shocked me. I did ask if he remembered to tell the shelter he was working so they'd let him in in the middle of the night. He did, but asked if I'd call to double check. I did and that was all okay. He asked me for food after that. He didn't know how they worked "dinner" on the shift he's on 9 p.m. to 4 a.m. but turns out they have a fridge and microwave they can use. I told him I'd only do it once...after that it's up to him to figure out. So I took McDonald's. His supervisor picked it up at the door and was very nice about it, being his first day and all. I did tell him about the apartment yesterday...but I don't know anything about it - the terms etc., just that it's cheap, furnished, and close to the bus lines and less than a mile (about 1/2 mile actually) from where he works. But I never considered seriously paying for it or being on the lease. If it's still available when he gets ready to move, then maybe he should look into it. The places he's looking at through the shelter are way too far from where he works and there are no busses in our town after 5:30. But I did my part...I told him. He gets into his email and checks it out or he doesn't. I know he isn't incapable I guess. He's just so immature and doesn't think...but I know that Jabber's right. Unlike me, who would say, "Oh! That's how it's done!" and never needed a hand again, my son pays no attention if you do something for him and never learns. With the weather just starting to get bad here...I may be inclined to give him a ride in to work now and then...but getting home is his problem. 4 a.m. is a sucky time to be walking the streets in the rain and snow, but he'll live...it's only a 20 minute walk. I just hope he sticks with it. I'm worried that with the noisy shelter and cruddy hours he'll end up quitting....but that's on him too. [SIZE=5][SIZE=7][COLOR=rgb(255, 0, 0)]IT'S YOU???[/COLOR][/SIZE] [/SIZE]:santa::nonono: [/QUOTE]
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