My daughter is 18, living with my parents. She has not lived with us for almost 9 months now (either been in jail in RT, in group home, in jail, etc.). Because of her history, and the foolish things she does with money, gifts, we've decided that money is not the best gift for her (gifts are even risky, as she could sell or "lose" those too). Nobody wants to give her cash that she can spend it on drugs, booze or goodness knows what. I've actually had this policy for the past few years. Only has it been recently that my mother is actually on board with it. I feel badly, because her siblings mostly are getting cash for gifts this year, and I know my daughter would like some, too, but she just can't be trusted. We decided to go with gift cards (which she could sell, I suppose, but at least it isn't straight up money). Part of me it doesn't bother, and then part of me feels badly about it. I don't think the emotions are completely rational, but probably more nostalgic and sad that she is not in a place where people trust her. That's just the reality of it.