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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 688330" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Sweet lady, all I can tell you is to ignore them. Hold your head high. Who cares what other people think. I've been where you are, the feelings of being embarrassed and feeling ashamed. My son has also posted some ugly things on facebook for others to see. I have come to learn that those who pass judgement on me without really knowing all the details are not worth the breath I breathe. These people do not understand because they have never walked in our shoes. Please do try to not look at her facebook posts. If it causes you pain then stay away from it. If you put your hand on a hot stove it would hurt and would remember that pain and not do it again. It's no different with social media.</p><p></p><p></p><p>YOU are important!! You have a life to live, YOUR life. It's so easy to get lost when dealing with our difficult adult children. We want so desperately for them to function well that we forget ourselves and the WE need to function well. It is important that you take care of yourself. Try and do one small thing each day that is just for you. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Here's the thing, if you let your daughter move back in with you, in your heart you would be "helping" her but in reality you would be enabling her. There is a fine line between helping and enabling. It's also very easy for our adult Difficult Child to fall into a place of complacency when they move in with us. </p><p></p><p>It's good that you are here sharing your feelings. You will find much needed support here which will help you grow strong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 688330, member: 18516"] Sweet lady, all I can tell you is to ignore them. Hold your head high. Who cares what other people think. I've been where you are, the feelings of being embarrassed and feeling ashamed. My son has also posted some ugly things on facebook for others to see. I have come to learn that those who pass judgement on me without really knowing all the details are not worth the breath I breathe. These people do not understand because they have never walked in our shoes. Please do try to not look at her facebook posts. If it causes you pain then stay away from it. If you put your hand on a hot stove it would hurt and would remember that pain and not do it again. It's no different with social media. YOU are important!! You have a life to live, YOUR life. It's so easy to get lost when dealing with our difficult adult children. We want so desperately for them to function well that we forget ourselves and the WE need to function well. It is important that you take care of yourself. Try and do one small thing each day that is just for you. Here's the thing, if you let your daughter move back in with you, in your heart you would be "helping" her but in reality you would be enabling her. There is a fine line between helping and enabling. It's also very easy for our adult Difficult Child to fall into a place of complacency when they move in with us. It's good that you are here sharing your feelings. You will find much needed support here which will help you grow strong. [/QUOTE]
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