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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 688349" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Look here, lovely lady (mock harsh voice just kidding), tons of kids grow up with stepfather, and not all of them are into our kids. Nowadays they often have single moms too. Some are adopted. Seriously, I believe resilience in particular can be an inborn inherited trait and we are powerless regarding the tools they are given in which to function. Many kids without bio. Dad around do great. In fact, if bio. Dad is toxic, they could do better without. Unless don't know the divorce rate in England, but here it is enormous.</p><p></p><p>I have four kids, five if you include the one we adopted at six from China who said good bye ten years ago.why? I don't know for sure, but suspect attachment issues. Back to the other four they are interesting. Oldest is biological, was spoiled, and lived with both parents until he was almostb18, but he struggled with mental health issues and being respectful to us. My three adopted kids, as in didn't know their birth parents, are much nicer (although bio. Son is 38 now and doing well). One daughter was easy to raise, then did drugs, but quit and is now a sweetie. My younger two, one high functionong autistic but doing great, are two of the best young adults I ever met. Not only are the three adopters adopted..</p><p>They are different races than me and second hubby.</p><p></p><p>Why did they turn out so good? Why did bio. Son struggle?</p><p></p><p>We can go crazy blaming ourselves. Don't do it. Don't. That will do nothing for your daughter and impact your health, which is a bad thing for your daughter AND especially for you. And you matter. You count.</p><p></p><p>Did you read the article on the top of the page on detachment?</p><p></p><p>Have a good day. One step at a time. Try not to scare yourself by thinking ahead in a negative way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 688349, member: 1550"] Look here, lovely lady (mock harsh voice just kidding), tons of kids grow up with stepfather, and not all of them are into our kids. Nowadays they often have single moms too. Some are adopted. Seriously, I believe resilience in particular can be an inborn inherited trait and we are powerless regarding the tools they are given in which to function. Many kids without bio. Dad around do great. In fact, if bio. Dad is toxic, they could do better without. Unless don't know the divorce rate in England, but here it is enormous. I have four kids, five if you include the one we adopted at six from China who said good bye ten years ago.why? I don't know for sure, but suspect attachment issues. Back to the other four they are interesting. Oldest is biological, was spoiled, and lived with both parents until he was almostb18, but he struggled with mental health issues and being respectful to us. My three adopted kids, as in didn't know their birth parents, are much nicer (although bio. Son is 38 now and doing well). One daughter was easy to raise, then did drugs, but quit and is now a sweetie. My younger two, one high functionong autistic but doing great, are two of the best young adults I ever met. Not only are the three adopters adopted.. They are different races than me and second hubby. Why did they turn out so good? Why did bio. Son struggle? We can go crazy blaming ourselves. Don't do it. Don't. That will do nothing for your daughter and impact your health, which is a bad thing for your daughter AND especially for you. And you matter. You count. Did you read the article on the top of the page on detachment? Have a good day. One step at a time. Try not to scare yourself by thinking ahead in a negative way. [/QUOTE]
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