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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 688357" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>This is classic Freudian thinking, blame the parents. </p><p>I will agree that the homes we live in do have an impact on who and how we are, that being said, I also know there are many other influences in life that contribute to who and how we are. </p><p>My bio-father sexually abused me as a child. "statistics" say that I should have ended up a prostitute. That did not happen (thank God)</p><p>Did having that happen to me have an affect on me? Absolutely! We all come to a crossroad in life where we have a choice to make in how we are going to live. I made a choice to have a relationship with a man that turned out to be my sons bio-father. After a couple of years with this immature, irresponsible man I had enough. I made the choice to live a better life for myself and my son. It was not easy but I did it. I worked two waitress jobs for a couple of years and then a friend got me a job at very successful company. With a lot of effort I was able to turn my life around. </p><p></p><p>It's a shame your daughter found a counselor who planted that seed in her mind. Do not buy into it. As I said before, you and your husband (step dad) are not the only influences in your daughter's life. </p><p></p><p>Your daughter is an adult now. She has free will to choose how she will live her life. If she doesn't like how it's going it is up to her to change the course. It's up to you to let her live her own life.</p><p></p><p>It was not easy for me to accept my son's life choices. I would not choose to be a homeless drifter but that is what my son has chosen. I do not like it but it's his life. I have no say or control over his choices. It was very freeing to finally accept that he's going to live the way he is. I worked through the grieving process. My son is not dead, but the hopes and dreams I had for him are. I grieved for those hopes and dreams.</p><p></p><p><img src="http://cutelovequotesforher.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/letting-go-quotes-on-love.jpg" alt="" class="fr-fic fr-dii fr-draggable " style="" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 688357, member: 18516"] This is classic Freudian thinking, blame the parents. I will agree that the homes we live in do have an impact on who and how we are, that being said, I also know there are many other influences in life that contribute to who and how we are. My bio-father sexually abused me as a child. "statistics" say that I should have ended up a prostitute. That did not happen (thank God) Did having that happen to me have an affect on me? Absolutely! We all come to a crossroad in life where we have a choice to make in how we are going to live. I made a choice to have a relationship with a man that turned out to be my sons bio-father. After a couple of years with this immature, irresponsible man I had enough. I made the choice to live a better life for myself and my son. It was not easy but I did it. I worked two waitress jobs for a couple of years and then a friend got me a job at very successful company. With a lot of effort I was able to turn my life around. It's a shame your daughter found a counselor who planted that seed in her mind. Do not buy into it. As I said before, you and your husband (step dad) are not the only influences in your daughter's life. Your daughter is an adult now. She has free will to choose how she will live her life. If she doesn't like how it's going it is up to her to change the course. It's up to you to let her live her own life. It was not easy for me to accept my son's life choices. I would not choose to be a homeless drifter but that is what my son has chosen. I do not like it but it's his life. I have no say or control over his choices. It was very freeing to finally accept that he's going to live the way he is. I worked through the grieving process. My son is not dead, but the hopes and dreams I had for him are. I grieved for those hopes and dreams. [IMG]http://cutelovequotesforher.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/letting-go-quotes-on-love.jpg[/IMG] [/QUOTE]
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