I have visited here before. About 2 years ago? I starting suspecting that something was wrong with my now almost 5 year old daughter. Now I'm sure. She is a textbook definitinon for ODD -- everything on the list is HER exactly. We saw a physchologist for a while, that was useless. Finally after getting kicked out of 2 daycare centers for tantrums we hired a nanny and were great for almost a year until the nanny had to leave for health problems. Our accomdating neighbor spoiled her for about 8 weeks and now the worst behaviors are back. We have an appoint ment with a behavioral developmental pediatrician but not until October. I don't think I'll make it until then. I've lost all control and I just can't stand my daugther anymore. My husband feels the same way. Any advice for how to cope until October?