Care To Cross A Couple Of Fingers??

Discussion in 'Substance Abuse' started by DDD, Jan 3, 2007.

  1. lovemysons

    lovemysons Well-Known Member

    Way-To-Go-easy child/difficult child!!! (and DDD for good timing/opportunity provided)

    That's wonderful. It's so good to see when they start reaching out and growing again. The positive goal, the exposure, experience, the willingness to even try says so very much. Easy does it. One day at a time.

    Now I'll pry my fingers apart, that's a Long time for them to stay crossed! :biggrin:
  2. Suz

    Suz (the future) MRS. GERE

    [ QUOTE ]
    It is not 100% complete yet but easy child/difficult child agreed
    to go to the community college and meet with the Director of
    Disabilities (although I didn't mention his title to the kid
    in AND he is going to take HIS FIRST COLLEGE

    He's "going to try it" and I have the Disability Dude at the
    ready if he needs supports. Is that cool or what??????

    Yes, I realize he could get arrested again any day. Yes, I
    know he might be able to hack the course. BUT I am tickled pink that at least for a few hours each week he
    is going to be around kids his age who are working toward a
    real goal.

    Thanks for the crossed fingers. Thanks to you,
    maybe something better will come this year. Another small
    step for man.

    Hugs. DDD

    [/ QUOTE ]

    D3 asked me to "correct" her post. I can't "correct" it but hopefully by moving it down here in the quote everyone will be able to see that she posted her update.

    In the meantime, I'm :bravo: :bravo: :bravo:

    It might not be World Peace but it's close enough for a Thursday night. I'm just thrilled!!! ....and crossing my fingers that he will attend and enjoy it!

    Hugs and dancing ( !!! ),
    Suz :princess:
  3. OTE

    OTE Guest

    Congrats... it's a step forward. Maybe the disability guy will even be able to get difficult child to admit his limitations.
  4. SunnyFlorida

    SunnyFlorida Active Member

    OMG, where did those dancing feet go when you need them? :smile: Hopefully things will go smoothly.
  5. Ephchap

    Ephchap Active Member

    DDD, my friend, I am teary eyed with happiness. Steps forward. That's awesome!

    Sending mega hugs,
    Deb :bravo:
  6. saving grace

    saving grace New Member

    DDD your update brought tears to my eyes, your enthusiasim and pure joy at this small step is awesome. As I sit here depressed that difficult child is in the basement just lying on the bed watching tv all day and night, he either sleeps, smokes pot or watches tv, alone in the basement. I work at a university, he could have went to school for free, tuition at this school is $42,000 and he would rather be the difficult child that he is

    WAY TO GO easy child/difficult child I know exactly what you mean by just knowing that for a few hours a week he will be doing something normal and with normal goal oriented kids his own age.

    I can only dream

    Grace :bravo:

    TYLERFAN New Member

    Very happy to hear this.
    Hoping that easy child/difficult child will follow thru.
    How on earth did you get him to do this, DDD? Or was it his idea???
    Doing the Happy Dance!!!!!

    Melissa *
  8. KFld

    KFld New Member

    That is the best news I have heard this year!!!! /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/8_6_31.gif

    I like your attitude too. You are thrilled, but thinking so realistically about what may or may not happen next. It's a step in a new direction for a new year!!!
  9. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Thanks, guys. Today he buys his books and a couple of new
    things to wear that aren't "too too". No..LOL..I don't mean
    a Tu Tu!

    He even got his haircut. I'm going to enjoy what I can enjoy for as long as it lasts. It means alot to have you
    all on the team. Hugs. DDD
  10. KFld

    KFld New Member

    Make sure you take a picture of him on his first day of school :smile:
  11. Coookie

    Coookie Active Member

    Another tear filled feeling of joy here DDD... :9-07tears: Baby steps...crossing and rattling away here... :biggrin:

  12. FlowerGarden

    FlowerGarden Active Member

    Awesome news!
  13. SunnyFlorida

    SunnyFlorida Active Member

    So what class is he going to take? I love going to school again :biggrin:
  14. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    He is taking an Introduction to Microcomputers/Windows for
    three hours on Tueday night. It is required for a degree in
    Busines Administration and Business Management. He has expressed (who to heck knows an interest in those
    majors. This is an 8 week session so IF he does well and IF
    he stays out of trouble and preferably IF he feels like part
    of "our" world again...then he can sign up for more classes
    next semester.

    Also, he is going to sign up at the YMCA this week to begin
    working out and getting in shape again. He got clearance
    from the Neurologist to exercise at will...finally. He has
    gained probably 35 pounds since the brain surgery so he does
    not look "hot" like he used to.

    So........instead of staying out late, sleeping late, eating
    and then going out again, the plan is to get up and eat some
    healthy cereal/fruit/beverage for breakfast. Watch BET or
    whatever for awhile to chill. Then, walk or bike to the Y
    and do exercises of his choice. Come home and nap (he still
    needs naps) or rest or study or do SOMETHING to help with
    the house. Then he can do homework here or at the college.

    How's that for a plan????? It's the best I have been able
    to negotiate! LOL. DDD

    PS: I think my salemans skills have polished up a bit lately. I'm not accepting NO as an I just provide alternatives.
  15. lovemysons

    lovemysons Well-Known Member

    I am SO loving the plan.

    The exercise routine sounds especially helpful too...getting those "feel good" endorphines going, some weight lifting/toning, etc.
    Me and mine happen to be pretty vain people so I completely understand the need/emphasis to build up outside appearance, lol.
    My sons have spent more time in the mirror than my daughter has or will ever. Oh ya, gotta look "hot", cool etc before steppin out, roll eyes.
    As if good looks really make a hilla-beans difference in the end...but, it sure doesn't hurt for them to be doing healthy positive things for their bodies. We ALL know how good they are at the alternative.

    Now...the tricky part for you is going to be letting easy child/difficult child "own" his efforts, motivation, homework, etc. Okay, least for me that's "tricky". It is my natural inclination to apply more pressure (unintentionally of course) whenever I see/feel signs of getting "stuck" again, fear, etc.
    Like I have stated's like having my hands bound and my mouth duck-taped and letting him figure/feel it out for himself, that is so Darned hard for me. But it is more respectful, non over-reacting, and non personal. So it's healthier.
    Anyway, I guess that ties in with codependency issues I find in myself. I have to work so hard to guard against it.

    I am definitely Pumped about all of this before your easy child/difficult child. Notice I put the "difficult child" in small letters. He's trying to grow again.

    all smiles,

    TYLERFAN New Member


    Sounds like a great plan to me. :bravo: :warrior:

    Melissa *
  17. SunnyFlorida

    SunnyFlorida Active Member

    I"m excited :bravo:
  18. Coookie

    Coookie Active Member

    I'm excited too. :biggrin: :bravo: So many positives DDD. :biggrin:

  19. rejectedmom

    rejectedmom New Member

    WAY COOL!!!! It's so much better than what he was doing. Hope he loves it and goes for more next semester and the one after and the one after...until he earns his degree!!!! -RM
  20. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    One itsy bitsy baby step at a time. He got a 92.5 on his first test....BUT....only time will tell as he horses almost
    every day. DDD