Nothing since Tuesday AM when husband and I made a pact to not open any emails from gfg32. This morning, there was an email, which i deleted. When I told husband about it, he said, Maybe you better read it (explaining later that he felt this way because this is the weekend exgf is moving back home). Stupid me opened it and read it to husband. You never answered my question. Why did you stay I could not stay at your house when I have not stayed there since 2002? Then more about how exgf cannot stand us because of what we have done. Kicker? My best friend died three years ago of ovarian cancer. Horrible and gfg32 knew that---if his antisocial self could know. When gfg32 was let out of jail (ten years ago) for breaking a restraining order numerous times, he called me, desperate and alone. Major enabler me(thinking this poor, poor scared kid) called my friend. She drove 1.5 hrs to get him. Gave him a bedroom, some of her husband's clothes, etc.) Every day or so i would call her. One day, and it was a kick to my gut, she tells me that they are sending gfg32 on his way. He had used her phone to contact the exgf with the restraining order and had accessed porn on my friend's computer. Sad thing, was i shocked? nooooooo. MAJORLY sick to my stomach, but not shocked. He ended the short email with: And your atheist friend, J (she was not a devout Christian, but certainly no atheist) shared with me that you exhibited these behaviors as a younger person. This is the woman who took him in. How dare he, but i know it is yet another tactic to draw me in. Not gonna work. Earlier today, i cut and pasted and emailed to my mom MWM's post to another member about the shut down ATM machine. It SO expresses our experience. My mom begged me to forward it to gfg32. I won't because he is not ready for dialogue. No therapy on the horizon, just blame. It may be a very long time, if ever, before i send him anything. Perhaps he is deescalating. probably most husband and i can hope for right now. A vent. Thanks.