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<blockquote data-quote="gottaloveem" data-source="post: 67736" data-attributes="member: 1953"><p>Well I am glad to know Sarge had nothing more than the flu.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like things are extremely stressful at your house. </p><p>I think your wife might believe that if you two work with him</p><p>enough, your son will "get it". Ah but no, difficult child's never change like that,they change on their own timeline, they change when the going gets real tough, and even then they are dragging their feet.</p><p></p><p>I will give you a the quick version of what happened to my friend</p><p>and her son:</p><p></p><p>All through high school he did very well (my friends son) he was</p><p>smoking pot, but his grades were good and teachers loved him. </p><p>They weren't strict but he wasn't making life miserable for them.Well he went downhill senior year(I still don't know the details) He did manage to win an award for a film he directed and even had it nominated in the Student Film across America festival (for college kids,her son was still in high school ) He is very talented. About two weeks ago, my friends came back from a trip and things at home weren't great, a family argument followed and my friends son pushed her. My friends husband found out, and he told my friend, that's it and they kicked their son out of the house. They told him HE is responsible for paying for college (financial aid in his name) They will not help him he is on his own. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Wow I thought, one strike you are out, I felt bad</p><p>because he really was doing OK, now he is on his own and very </p><p>mad at his parents. This was Alex's friend since they were born. I was shocked they took such a hard stance but maybe they are saving themselves aggravation while they are making him grow up. He already got a job after he was kicked out. (Earlier this summer he quit his job he had so he could party his "last" summer before college away) My friend does suspect he moved on to harder drugs. </p><p></p><p></p><p>You and your wife will have to do something drastic before you</p><p>have any peace in your house.Your wife wont be ready till you</p><p>dump him in her lap. It's a good strategy, you haven't tried it yet.</p><p></p><p>As always I wish you luck with McWeedy. I will keep my fingers crossed that he does have a lightbulb moment and "gets it" without too much hardship.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there! Try to detach completely.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Lia</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gottaloveem, post: 67736, member: 1953"] Well I am glad to know Sarge had nothing more than the flu. It sounds like things are extremely stressful at your house. I think your wife might believe that if you two work with him enough, your son will "get it". Ah but no, difficult child's never change like that,they change on their own timeline, they change when the going gets real tough, and even then they are dragging their feet. I will give you a the quick version of what happened to my friend and her son: All through high school he did very well (my friends son) he was smoking pot, but his grades were good and teachers loved him. They weren't strict but he wasn't making life miserable for them.Well he went downhill senior year(I still don't know the details) He did manage to win an award for a film he directed and even had it nominated in the Student Film across America festival (for college kids,her son was still in high school ) He is very talented. About two weeks ago, my friends came back from a trip and things at home weren't great, a family argument followed and my friends son pushed her. My friends husband found out, and he told my friend, that's it and they kicked their son out of the house. They told him HE is responsible for paying for college (financial aid in his name) They will not help him he is on his own. Wow I thought, one strike you are out, I felt bad because he really was doing OK, now he is on his own and very mad at his parents. This was Alex's friend since they were born. I was shocked they took such a hard stance but maybe they are saving themselves aggravation while they are making him grow up. He already got a job after he was kicked out. (Earlier this summer he quit his job he had so he could party his "last" summer before college away) My friend does suspect he moved on to harder drugs. You and your wife will have to do something drastic before you have any peace in your house.Your wife wont be ready till you dump him in her lap. It's a good strategy, you haven't tried it yet. As always I wish you luck with McWeedy. I will keep my fingers crossed that he does have a lightbulb moment and "gets it" without too much hardship. Hang in there! Try to detach completely. Lia [/QUOTE]
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