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<blockquote data-quote="everywoman" data-source="post: 67756" data-attributes="member: 1436"><p>Mikey, sometimes detachment simply means acceptance: He is going to do what he is going to do. You and wife are not going to kick him out. At this point in the game, you need to back up and let natural consequences play things out. You are busted, with no cards left to play. Get out of the game. Don't call.I never call difficult child's cell) Don't check up on him (It's just going to be a lie anyway). Don't make smart comments (Sometimes I slip but I try really hard to bite my tongue). Learn to look the other way (Okay this take some practice, but it can happen: glazed eyes could just mean he is getting a cold; he could have stumbled on something lying in the hall).... Sometimes, sadly, that's all we can do until....one of three things will happen: he will stop, the cops will stop him, or he will die! That's the sad reality. I know I sound jaded---but I have been dealing with this for years---mine is 19 and has been at it since 15. My rules now are simple: don't ask me for anything, don't steal anything I own, and don't bring drugs into my house! It is amazing what you can learn to not see when you stop looking. It makes life more pleasant for you and those you love! Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="everywoman, post: 67756, member: 1436"] Mikey, sometimes detachment simply means acceptance: He is going to do what he is going to do. You and wife are not going to kick him out. At this point in the game, you need to back up and let natural consequences play things out. You are busted, with no cards left to play. Get out of the game. Don't call.I never call difficult child's cell) Don't check up on him (It's just going to be a lie anyway). Don't make smart comments (Sometimes I slip but I try really hard to bite my tongue). Learn to look the other way (Okay this take some practice, but it can happen: glazed eyes could just mean he is getting a cold; he could have stumbled on something lying in the hall).... Sometimes, sadly, that's all we can do until....one of three things will happen: he will stop, the cops will stop him, or he will die! That's the sad reality. I know I sound jaded---but I have been dealing with this for years---mine is 19 and has been at it since 15. My rules now are simple: don't ask me for anything, don't steal anything I own, and don't bring drugs into my house! It is amazing what you can learn to not see when you stop looking. It makes life more pleasant for you and those you love! Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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