My son is in jail for the second time and he is only 19 years old. It tears my heart out, but I refuse to bail him out. My heart bleeds for him, but I will never give up hope. I pray for him and when I am too weak or angry to pray, I will put prayer requests in at church, so that others will pray. The first time that he was in jail, I visited him 3 times a week, I encouraged him, prayed with him and listened to his heart. When he got out he did the complete opposite of what he made me believe he was going to do. Now he is in jail again and the circumstances are different. I can't visit him like I did before, I feel so out of touch with him and it kills me. All I can do is put him in God's hands because I can't fix him or his life. He needs to turn his will and life over to God....I can't help him....believe me, I have tried. My heart goes out to you because I know your pain.