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<blockquote data-quote="Snow White" data-source="post: 701363" data-attributes="member: 355"><p>Nomad, you have just described my daughter! A couple of years ago, I had my and hubby's cell phone #'s changed because she would text rant and phone rant at all hours of the day and night. I will also no longer accept a Facebook friend request from her because she chronically adds/deletes me, depending on how the sun rises. I also got tired of seeing rude comments about myself & husband. Decided it wasn't worth it. If she wants to contact us now, it's on our landline or via email. And can she rant via email!</p><p></p><p>I have told our daughter that when she gets really nasty on the phone or email, I will not respond. If we're on the phone, I simply say, "I am not listening to any further abusive talk. I'm going to hang up the phone now. Goodbye." She will then accuse me of hanging up on her. I remind her that I did not hang up on her. I gave the initial warning, told her I was going to hang up and politely said goodbye. Like your daughter, a day or two later when she calls back, it's like nothing happened.</p><p></p><p>I find that if I nip the rude/abusive behaviour right away, I don't feel so stressed. She will either stop the behaviour, knowing that I am going to hang up or keep ranting anyway but to a dial tone on the other end! I also won't speak to her when she's full out crying and yelling. I can't understand her then and I know she's not hearing anything I'm saying anyway.</p><p></p><p>I would not continue to argue over the roller blades (or whatever other issue she has at the time). I would state my opinion once. If she continued to rant, I would explain that no further abuse will be tolerated. Then tell her you are going to hang up the phone. If she continues to rant, politely say, "Goodbye, "X" and hang up.</p><p></p><p>If she is really continuing the behaviour, then by all means, block her or cut off her phone service (especially if you are paying for it).</p><p></p><p>It seems like this behaviour is impulsive and habit forming in our children. We need to break the habit.</p><p></p><p>It sure is tiring....and frustrating.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Snow White, post: 701363, member: 355"] Nomad, you have just described my daughter! A couple of years ago, I had my and hubby's cell phone #'s changed because she would text rant and phone rant at all hours of the day and night. I will also no longer accept a Facebook friend request from her because she chronically adds/deletes me, depending on how the sun rises. I also got tired of seeing rude comments about myself & husband. Decided it wasn't worth it. If she wants to contact us now, it's on our landline or via email. And can she rant via email! I have told our daughter that when she gets really nasty on the phone or email, I will not respond. If we're on the phone, I simply say, "I am not listening to any further abusive talk. I'm going to hang up the phone now. Goodbye." She will then accuse me of hanging up on her. I remind her that I did not hang up on her. I gave the initial warning, told her I was going to hang up and politely said goodbye. Like your daughter, a day or two later when she calls back, it's like nothing happened. I find that if I nip the rude/abusive behaviour right away, I don't feel so stressed. She will either stop the behaviour, knowing that I am going to hang up or keep ranting anyway but to a dial tone on the other end! I also won't speak to her when she's full out crying and yelling. I can't understand her then and I know she's not hearing anything I'm saying anyway. I would not continue to argue over the roller blades (or whatever other issue she has at the time). I would state my opinion once. If she continued to rant, I would explain that no further abuse will be tolerated. Then tell her you are going to hang up the phone. If she continues to rant, politely say, "Goodbye, "X" and hang up. If she is really continuing the behaviour, then by all means, block her or cut off her phone service (especially if you are paying for it). It seems like this behaviour is impulsive and habit forming in our children. We need to break the habit. It sure is tiring....and frustrating. [/QUOTE]
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