I have been mulling this over in my mind, and decided I need some more input. On difficult child's 2nd day of school he goes on a 2 night field trip. It is meant to build the community & relationships in his class. I think it is a good idea and am all for it. Should I go? When I met with the director and sped teacher last year they invited me to be a chaperone. I think that they had not met difficult child and were kinda overwhelmed by some of his behaviors and his medications (he takes 3 and several supplements). After our meeting difficult child went to his "move up day" at the school, I did not go with, and he did great and all went well. I think/hope this reassured them that he is not a handful all of the time, but only some of the time. My gut tells me not to go. He needs to do this on his own, I think it will help him to become more independent of me, as he can be so dependent. I also think he will behave better if I am not there as I am a "safe" person. He will be much more cautious if I am not there. But if I am there I can be sure he gets his medications when he is supposed to , and I can diffuse things if he starts to escalate, I can see it before it happens and head it off at the pass. Ugg I am so torn.