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<blockquote data-quote="Simion" data-source="post: 762252" data-attributes="member: 29037"><p>Newksm’s suggestion is so on target. Everything she touched upon is so true. My daughter has a trauma history, abused by bio father. The gene pool on both sides a boiling pot of mental illness. She was born prematurely due to stress & abuse in relationship with bio dad. The odds were not in her favor. Although she was sick often in her first 2 years she was the absolute joy in our life. I have children from a marriage before. Just writing this I can still see her in my minds eye. She had the most radiant smile, infectious laugh & loved with such abundance. </p><p> Sadly that all changed when the court allowed visitation with her abusive father. A year later that child of mine no longer existed. She became a defiant, dark child who would throw violent tantrums. I’ll not share the details of the story, only to say I sought help & her PCP recommended a child therapist. It was during her therapy session that she disclosed the abuse.</p><p> Years of therapy for the entire family followed. For my little one there were many hospitalization, therapists, psychiatrists, medications & what felt like every form of therapy & behavior modification known. I am certain this added to her trauma & delayed treatment & a correct diagnosis. I could not have made it through all of that had I not been in therapy & additional supports. [ Domestic Violence Support Group ] Having a child with a serious mental health issues takes it’s toll on the whole family. One of my teenagers refused to deal with any of it, would not continue with therapy & sought relief in drugs & alcohol. Becoming a full blown heroin user. My middle school child suffered sever depression & was hospitalized as she was suicidal. I share this not to frighten anyone only as a precautionary story of what can happen within a family when there are mental health issue. </p><p> You are in for the fight of your life, of your family’s life. One can not do this without professional help. I was already in therapy dealing with my own trauma history and was determined to fight for wellness for all of us. Wellness comes dressed in many different ways from high couture to street wear. My now adult child who was a heroin addict is clean & sober. Works with HIV positive addicts who live on the streets providing social services to those willing to take the help. My other middle schooler is now an adult as well. She has worked many years in therapy dealing with her mh issues. Today she is a successful professional, owns her own home, travels & got married. My youngest, finally correctly diagnosed Borderline (BPD) is a hot mess who looks like a top model. It is still a day to day struggle. I reached the point where I had to draw the line & she had to move out. Fighting with the state to get her proper services & housing as arduous as dealing with Borderline (BPD). Reality is I will never have my beautiful loving child back and I will have to work hard to have some semblance of a relationship with this young adult. I know with support I can do it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Simion, post: 762252, member: 29037"] Newksm’s suggestion is so on target. Everything she touched upon is so true. My daughter has a trauma history, abused by bio father. The gene pool on both sides a boiling pot of mental illness. She was born prematurely due to stress & abuse in relationship with bio dad. The odds were not in her favor. Although she was sick often in her first 2 years she was the absolute joy in our life. I have children from a marriage before. Just writing this I can still see her in my minds eye. She had the most radiant smile, infectious laugh & loved with such abundance. Sadly that all changed when the court allowed visitation with her abusive father. A year later that child of mine no longer existed. She became a defiant, dark child who would throw violent tantrums. I’ll not share the details of the story, only to say I sought help & her PCP recommended a child therapist. It was during her therapy session that she disclosed the abuse. Years of therapy for the entire family followed. For my little one there were many hospitalization, therapists, psychiatrists, medications & what felt like every form of therapy & behavior modification known. I am certain this added to her trauma & delayed treatment & a correct diagnosis. I could not have made it through all of that had I not been in therapy & additional supports. [ Domestic Violence Support Group ] Having a child with a serious mental health issues takes it’s toll on the whole family. One of my teenagers refused to deal with any of it, would not continue with therapy & sought relief in drugs & alcohol. Becoming a full blown heroin user. My middle school child suffered sever depression & was hospitalized as she was suicidal. I share this not to frighten anyone only as a precautionary story of what can happen within a family when there are mental health issue. You are in for the fight of your life, of your family’s life. One can not do this without professional help. I was already in therapy dealing with my own trauma history and was determined to fight for wellness for all of us. Wellness comes dressed in many different ways from high couture to street wear. My now adult child who was a heroin addict is clean & sober. Works with HIV positive addicts who live on the streets providing social services to those willing to take the help. My other middle schooler is now an adult as well. She has worked many years in therapy dealing with her mh issues. Today she is a successful professional, owns her own home, travels & got married. My youngest, finally correctly diagnosed Borderline (BPD) is a hot mess who looks like a top model. It is still a day to day struggle. I reached the point where I had to draw the line & she had to move out. Fighting with the state to get her proper services & housing as arduous as dealing with Borderline (BPD). Reality is I will never have my beautiful loving child back and I will have to work hard to have some semblance of a relationship with this young adult. I know with support I can do it. [/QUOTE]
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