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<blockquote data-quote="newstart" data-source="post: 728907" data-attributes="member: 22416"><p><em>Leafy, You are so right, the problem with so many of us parents is that watching them struggle is so painful but it is in the struggle that they grow. As hard as that is to watch it is nessesary to do. I have to admit that I am the worst enabler, but not anymore, to get my 35 year old daughter unstuck I have to step away and allow her to feel the full blunt of her own actions.. I kept thinking that if I help her this time she will pull herself out and use my help as a step to move forward but all it does and did was make her lazy and dependent and kept her stuck in her awful cycle. I will be the first to admit that it is extremely painful to watch my daughter suffer when I can do something to stop her suffer and struggle but I have to stand back and watch it happen..What helps me stop the enabling is thinking about her picking a 1/2 ass boyfriend and thinking its ok to let him live in our rent home and disrepect us. We work hard for our money and she has wasted thousands of dollars on bad decisions.</em></p><p><em>StruggelinginCR ~ please write a signature so we know how old your daughter is and what other information you would like everyone to know so we all could help you better. I am all for tiny living but not at your expense. Tiny living is suppose to help everyone finacially including you. Good luck and welcome.</em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="newstart, post: 728907, member: 22416"] [I]Leafy, You are so right, the problem with so many of us parents is that watching them struggle is so painful but it is in the struggle that they grow. As hard as that is to watch it is nessesary to do. I have to admit that I am the worst enabler, but not anymore, to get my 35 year old daughter unstuck I have to step away and allow her to feel the full blunt of her own actions.. I kept thinking that if I help her this time she will pull herself out and use my help as a step to move forward but all it does and did was make her lazy and dependent and kept her stuck in her awful cycle. I will be the first to admit that it is extremely painful to watch my daughter suffer when I can do something to stop her suffer and struggle but I have to stand back and watch it happen..What helps me stop the enabling is thinking about her picking a 1/2 ass boyfriend and thinking its ok to let him live in our rent home and disrepect us. We work hard for our money and she has wasted thousands of dollars on bad decisions. StruggelinginCR ~ please write a signature so we know how old your daughter is and what other information you would like everyone to know so we all could help you better. I am all for tiny living but not at your expense. Tiny living is suppose to help everyone finacially including you. Good luck and welcome.[/I] [/QUOTE]
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