We asked Two Brooms to have Christmas on a day other than Christmas this year so cgfg would have more time to spend at all the Christmases she goes to, and so we wouldn't have to try to rush around, cause my rush button is a little broken this year. She readily agreed. We tried for Christmas eve, but husband's sister 'already had plans'. Odd, since her son is gone and she's not dating anyone, but whatever. So it was decided Tuesday eve after Christmas, because thats when we'll have cgfg. And easy child 1 and his girlfriend will be here then, too. Cool! I made arrangements with cgfg's mom. Turns out it will work well for everyone. Cgfg will be here Christmas eve for the day, we will open our gifts, then she'll go back to her mom's that night. Then we'll pick her up Tuesday and she'll be here all the next week. Everyone was happy. husband's sister told me Sunday that she has since volunteered to work all next week, so may or may not be at Christmas on Tuesday. Guess I was supposed to feel bad. I don't. Two Brooms called today. Seems nephew (husband's sister's kid) may now be coming home for Christmas day. husband's sister now wants us to change our plans, get cgfg for Christmas Eve night, and have Christmas then, since nephew will be home, so we can all be together, etc. ARGH! If you remember, all holidays last year we're held for nephew, around her schedule, because it was his "last Christmas" and he would 'probably be gone from then on'. He's been home 4 times so far since leaving for the air force in July. He was here for thanksgiving (which they had without me and expected husband and the kids to attend on the day of my second surgery!!!!). I just said no. We bent over backwards for sister and nephew for a year, we had a big gift for the kids that we wanted to be home for, and she refused to bend about it (and we went out there), we are tring to work with husband's ex for cgfg, and IF nephew comes home, he'll be here for 12 hours, to be split between 3 families. And not for nothing, sister didn't seem to care much about being together, being she volunteered to work. So, no, not changing. Two Brooms wasn't angry at all. she said I'm right. If nephew comes, those available can get together. Otherwise, we'll have christmas tuesday with or without sister. Holy cow! Who is this woman!!!!!