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<blockquote data-quote="Gone" data-source="post: 641635"><p>Thank you SO much everyone for your ongoing support on here!</p><p></p><p>It is SO hard to find a good forum for the parents of substance abusers and believe me I have looked LOL</p><p></p><p>I am happy to say my GS will NOT be going home for Christmas and beyond! <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/teethy.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":teethy:" title="teethy :teethy:" data-shortname=":teethy:" /></p><p></p><p>The new SW is EXCELLENT and COMPLETELY put her foot down with my difficult child and told her a flat out NO and that my GS was going away with the foster carer for Christmas and that she won't be seeing him over Christmas now</p><p></p><p>I think my difficult child made it WORSE for herself by thinking she could LIE to SS and say she had stopped drinking and is ready to have my GS back when NEITHER is actually true..</p><p></p><p>The RELIEF I feel that my GS is and will continue to be safe and well is IMMENSE , the stress and worry about Christmas and my GS's future in my difficult child's care WAY too early was giving me sleepless nights</p><p></p><p>So am SO happy I wrote to SS before they totally put their foot down with her and told them I do NOT want him returned as it is way too early and HIGHLY likely to go wrong and the affect the stress and disorder / disruption would have on my GS as at least he is SETTLED where he is</p><p></p><p>He would LOVE to come home to a stable , happy , secure and CLEAN Mum but that is NOT the case and it would have been CHAOS and distress for him and I wanted to do EVERYTHING I COULD to PROTECT him from that , hence sending the email to SS expressing my very real concerns!!</p><p></p><p>I am SO relieved they managed to proper put their foot down with her , this SW is very professional and is a SENIOR one so knows her stuff and has been dealing with similar family situations for years I should imagine so knows the tactics parents use to try and get their kids home for Christmas / too early and I was wondering if they will limit my difficult child's contact for a while as she is seen as a threat to my GS right now</p><p></p><p>I hope they up the security at the contact centre as it isn't very high at all in case she still tries to DO SOMETHING STUPID , but HOPEFULLY she has got the message LOUD AND CLEAR!</p><p></p><p>I think they used the drink driving report as evidence of her last drinking incident so my difficult child is of course once again fuming at and blaming me but I don't CARE at least my GS is SAFE and well <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/childish.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":childish:" title="childish :childish:" data-shortname=":childish:" /></p><p></p><p>I can now have a QUIET , peaceful , stress free , calm and HOMELY Christmas here in my new home rather than stay over at my difficult child's house with CHAOS AND STRESS and I was NOT looking forward to it at all</p><p></p><p>Actually beginning to look forward to a more settled , peaceful Christmas now and can concentrate on ME and my home now and can detach more from my difficult child which helps that she is angry with me as it is an excuse for me to stay away and have some nice detachment in place and yes , detachment IS NICE! LOL xxxx</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Gone, post: 641635"] Thank you SO much everyone for your ongoing support on here! It is SO hard to find a good forum for the parents of substance abusers and believe me I have looked LOL I am happy to say my GS will NOT be going home for Christmas and beyond! :teethy: The new SW is EXCELLENT and COMPLETELY put her foot down with my difficult child and told her a flat out NO and that my GS was going away with the foster carer for Christmas and that she won't be seeing him over Christmas now I think my difficult child made it WORSE for herself by thinking she could LIE to SS and say she had stopped drinking and is ready to have my GS back when NEITHER is actually true.. The RELIEF I feel that my GS is and will continue to be safe and well is IMMENSE , the stress and worry about Christmas and my GS's future in my difficult child's care WAY too early was giving me sleepless nights So am SO happy I wrote to SS before they totally put their foot down with her and told them I do NOT want him returned as it is way too early and HIGHLY likely to go wrong and the affect the stress and disorder / disruption would have on my GS as at least he is SETTLED where he is He would LOVE to come home to a stable , happy , secure and CLEAN Mum but that is NOT the case and it would have been CHAOS and distress for him and I wanted to do EVERYTHING I COULD to PROTECT him from that , hence sending the email to SS expressing my very real concerns!! I am SO relieved they managed to proper put their foot down with her , this SW is very professional and is a SENIOR one so knows her stuff and has been dealing with similar family situations for years I should imagine so knows the tactics parents use to try and get their kids home for Christmas / too early and I was wondering if they will limit my difficult child's contact for a while as she is seen as a threat to my GS right now I hope they up the security at the contact centre as it isn't very high at all in case she still tries to DO SOMETHING STUPID , but HOPEFULLY she has got the message LOUD AND CLEAR! I think they used the drink driving report as evidence of her last drinking incident so my difficult child is of course once again fuming at and blaming me but I don't CARE at least my GS is SAFE and well :childish: I can now have a QUIET , peaceful , stress free , calm and HOMELY Christmas here in my new home rather than stay over at my difficult child's house with CHAOS AND STRESS and I was NOT looking forward to it at all Actually beginning to look forward to a more settled , peaceful Christmas now and can concentrate on ME and my home now and can detach more from my difficult child which helps that she is angry with me as it is an excuse for me to stay away and have some nice detachment in place and yes , detachment IS NICE! LOL xxxx [/QUOTE]
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