Though she is relatively new here, she is having a really rough time. Her husband just walked out supposedly until her difficult child is out of the home. HIS difficult child too! The man hasn't been supportive at all from the sounds of it, so she could probably really use our support. Paperplate, just wanted to say that it sounds like you "get it" in regard to your sons problems and how to help him manage them. That is a HUGE and AWESOME thing!!! Often what others see as problems are not when you step back and look at what impact they really have in life. So your difficult child needs half an hour to arrange his socks. As long as he gets up early enough to have that half hour, who cares? Surely it isn't as mind numbing as watching any one of many tv shows. You truly love, care for, and appreciate your child and it shows in your posts. I am so sorry that your husband was not more supportive and involved because it would enrich his own life immensely. It truly is his loss on a grand and fundamental scale. I am reaching out from OK to . . . . ?