It's interesting how I seem to be on the ball for what is good for difficult child and how to help him succeed in his life. I am finding though as easy child grows up, I really am not sure with her. She is asking for help but I am at a loss. I know I am biased but she is a very very pretty girl. She is blubby, happy and a truly sweet girl. She lacks some in confidence and can be shy when faced with the unknowns...in otherwords I would say a normal kid. She tends to be a bit laid back and hates confrontation (I am assuming because of difficult child) so she has made friends with some girls who have no self-esteem and tend to either boss her around or copy her. They degrade others in trying to make themselves feel better. easy child isn't like this and throughout this past year has started to realize that she has put herself in a position of not having many friends because no one likes the girls she is with and that she is finding that she doesn't really like them but is stuck because it's summer and next year she will start in a new school and she doesn't want to hurt anyone. She does have msn and I have tried to encourage her to try and expand her list but asking for msn addresses of people that she knew but didn't really get to know because of the above. She's very shy and hesitant. She wants to try out for cheerleading and will go out tonight for her first class. Turns out she knows someone there so I am hoping this will help her. She's very nervous about it. She wants to grow up into a young lady, I'm just not sure how to help her without pushing her beyond what she can handle. Wow it's harder to raise a young lady than it is a difficult child sometimes, lol!