Our middle child has terrorized me and traumatized us all for years. She prides herself on being an “evil genius” with years of experience of easily manipulating counselors, therapists, psychologists, and police. She finds it hilarious and gets great satisfaction from setting up traps and disasters for others. Our daughter is now in college. She prostitutes herself through an online site even though we cover her tuition and expenses. She focused her aggression on her boyfriend instead of me, routinely hitting him and throwing things at him, until he finally broke up. I wouldn’t allow her home for Thanksgiving, but my husband brought her home for Christmas. There has been no acknowledgement or discussion of her behavior. We have never been united in our approach to dealing with her- I am the one who calls the police, makes the reports, and takes the beatings (which stopped after she started dating steady). I am having a very hard time acting like everything is fine.