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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 705265" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>The school can consider her a dependent for state aid if they want, and give her aid or not. Mostly that aid is given to US residents though, so if you are not US citizens then she would not be eligible. She would need scholarships or loans to pay the tuition amount. Parents are expected to pay a certain amount BUT that is on paper and is NOT a legal obligation to the best of my information. I know MANY students here who have parents who are paying NOTHING toward their tuition. The state calculates aid based on parents giving a certain amount of aid, but if the parent doesn't pay that amount, the state can do NOTHING to enforce it. I know my state cannot enforce it, not for students who are US residents and not for students who are not US residents. If the parents will not pay, the student is the one who is held accountable and who is either kicked out of school or who is not able to receive a transcript or diploma until they pay off the tuition. If they have to, they can take out student loans, and they can offer to pay for them when they graduate. If they refuse to pay for the student loans when they graduate, then they are sued for that amount. </p><p></p><p>As for the credit card, what name is on the card? If the card is in your name or your husband's name, you can see what the charges are for, at least the names of the businesses. If the card is in yoru daughter's name, then you have ZERO obligation to pay for that card. Not unless you signed that you would pay for it with the bank that issued it. If you agreed to have payments come out of your account automatically, you can stop that by contacting your bank. You may also have to contact the credit card co, but you should be able to get the card info from your bank statement. </p><p></p><p>As for your daughter's little infographic, that is likely just marketing stuff the university issues to try to explain what they expect, not what your legal obligation is. I could be wrong, I am NOT an attorney and I don't know what agreements were signed, which could make a difference. But I would contact the university and tell them that you are NOT responsible for your daughter's finances or her education and she has disavowed you, and you are abiding by her wished by allowing her to have the independence that she wishes. Hence you are NOT paying for ANY of her expenses and they should contact her for any and all financial matters. Then return any and all mailings to the university.</p><p></p><p>Tell your daughter that you love her, and that you respect her independence and you are sure that she can handle her life and finances on her own just as she wishes. You will always love her, but love doesn't come with a price tag. She won't be happy, not at all, but she CHOSE this with her behavior toward you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 705265, member: 1233"] The school can consider her a dependent for state aid if they want, and give her aid or not. Mostly that aid is given to US residents though, so if you are not US citizens then she would not be eligible. She would need scholarships or loans to pay the tuition amount. Parents are expected to pay a certain amount BUT that is on paper and is NOT a legal obligation to the best of my information. I know MANY students here who have parents who are paying NOTHING toward their tuition. The state calculates aid based on parents giving a certain amount of aid, but if the parent doesn't pay that amount, the state can do NOTHING to enforce it. I know my state cannot enforce it, not for students who are US residents and not for students who are not US residents. If the parents will not pay, the student is the one who is held accountable and who is either kicked out of school or who is not able to receive a transcript or diploma until they pay off the tuition. If they have to, they can take out student loans, and they can offer to pay for them when they graduate. If they refuse to pay for the student loans when they graduate, then they are sued for that amount. As for the credit card, what name is on the card? If the card is in your name or your husband's name, you can see what the charges are for, at least the names of the businesses. If the card is in yoru daughter's name, then you have ZERO obligation to pay for that card. Not unless you signed that you would pay for it with the bank that issued it. If you agreed to have payments come out of your account automatically, you can stop that by contacting your bank. You may also have to contact the credit card co, but you should be able to get the card info from your bank statement. As for your daughter's little infographic, that is likely just marketing stuff the university issues to try to explain what they expect, not what your legal obligation is. I could be wrong, I am NOT an attorney and I don't know what agreements were signed, which could make a difference. But I would contact the university and tell them that you are NOT responsible for your daughter's finances or her education and she has disavowed you, and you are abiding by her wished by allowing her to have the independence that she wishes. Hence you are NOT paying for ANY of her expenses and they should contact her for any and all financial matters. Then return any and all mailings to the university. Tell your daughter that you love her, and that you respect her independence and you are sure that she can handle her life and finances on her own just as she wishes. You will always love her, but love doesn't come with a price tag. She won't be happy, not at all, but she CHOSE this with her behavior toward you. [/QUOTE]
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