Wow! So... difficult child has been in inpatient treatment for 2 weeks now. During our family counseling session (done via speakerphone as we're 4 hrs away) today he read aloud a coming clean letter that he'd written to us. On one hand, I am completely shocked. On the other, I find myself seriously questioning just HOW MUCH of this is real!? He fessed up to everything that we already knew about, a little that we didn't. Admitted he has a problem with substances and that he was ashamed at how far he'd go to get his hands on something, anything to take.... He claims to have been born again, accepting Christ in his life... blah blah blah TWO WEEKS! I felt like I was listening to an episode of the Dr. Phil show where they check in with addicts after being sober for several years. On Tuesday night I attended a meeting where the speaker (the owner of 2 very well respected adolescent inpatient treatment centers) talked about the 3 different kinds of kids he see's. One of them, he described as the "Dancers." They dance along, tip toeing, following every step, every move along the way with absolute precision. The "Dancers" seem like perfect patients. As it turns out, they are actually the hardest to treat because they spend all their energy on building this facade, this false image of who they are. They aren't actually working on themselves and their issues at all. It was a viola moment, listening to this man speak...My son is a "Dancer." I sure do hope the treatment facility he's at acknowledges it. My husband thinks they must or they wouldn't have recommended 60 days of treatment right out of the gate? I don't know. It was nice talking to him though. I sure do miss him!