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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 694807" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>My thinking is more like SWOT's. I was estranged from my own mother for many years but we reconciled for many years but lived distant from each other. Still, we spoke multiple times a week. We learned to avoid difficult topics. If it was painful to visit, I just did not. In those phone calls there was a lot of love and friendship. </p><p></p><p>When she became ill I tried my best to take care of her. Even still I was overcome with regret and guilt when she died and I could not go back and change my life. I came to regret my whole life and believe much of it was lived badly because I did not live from my love for my mother. I never realized the great depth of my love for her and came to believe I had lived a lie. </p><p></p><p>I say that is hard to know what is the self-protective thing to do. I thought I was doing it by making distance. In retrospect, it has caused me agony. I had a good and full life, at what cost? </p><p></p><p>Maybe I will someday feel differently. Maybe not. I believe that we can confront our own problems and limits without causing harm and great pain to those who love us and who we love. Had I been a stronger person I would have lived that way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 694807, member: 18958"] My thinking is more like SWOT's. I was estranged from my own mother for many years but we reconciled for many years but lived distant from each other. Still, we spoke multiple times a week. We learned to avoid difficult topics. If it was painful to visit, I just did not. In those phone calls there was a lot of love and friendship. When she became ill I tried my best to take care of her. Even still I was overcome with regret and guilt when she died and I could not go back and change my life. I came to regret my whole life and believe much of it was lived badly because I did not live from my love for my mother. I never realized the great depth of my love for her and came to believe I had lived a lie. I say that is hard to know what is the self-protective thing to do. I thought I was doing it by making distance. In retrospect, it has caused me agony. I had a good and full life, at what cost? Maybe I will someday feel differently. Maybe not. I believe that we can confront our own problems and limits without causing harm and great pain to those who love us and who we love. Had I been a stronger person I would have lived that way. [/QUOTE]
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