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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 286190" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>hi Jo! Your sig worked great.</p><p></p><p>I HATE it when people say "It just CANNOT be" whatever diagnosis. I find it closes them to potential avenues of help. In my case, reading the BiPolar (BP) child gave me a lot of insight and helped me decide the docs were wrong when they considered BiPolar (BP) for Wiz.</p><p></p><p>My mom spent some time in London the year we were first getting Wiz diagnosed. She knew I had a rough time finding books on Aspergers (it was over 10 years ago and not much was published here in the US that I could find) but she just happened to land in a hotel that had a large conference for teachers going on. She found an entire table of books on aspergers in the lobby. Some of it was aimed solely on teachers, some not. One of the books had a 3 page summary of traits.</p><p></p><p>When mom got home and we looked through that summary together my father had every single one of the listed traits!!! Wiz didn't have that many, LOL. Part of what we did to help Wiz was to look at how my dad was raised. He was considered odd, but never ever left out because all his playmates and most of his classmates were cousins or family friends (large Catholic families do have their benefits, LOL). All the relatives lived with-in a mile of each other. </p><p></p><p>As long as you trust the doctor then do what seems to work. I just wanted to let you know that some of the ADULTS here say that until they were off of all antidepressant medications and stimulants they couldn't possibly be stable. One member was on lexapro for years and finally ended up on mood stabilizers and was truly ASTONISHED at the difference. I knew her before and after the change and it was incredible. Where she seemed to be doing well on the lexapro, she is just AMAZING now.</p><p></p><p>I am glad that you have a husband with Aspergers because it will let you see that a real future is possible. I was blessed because I could see my dad and that he functioned in the adult world very well. It made me feel that there really WAS help for my son.</p><p></p><p>Later, when Wiz got violent again he went to live with my parents. My dad took over a lot of his care, including working out all that anger. Gpa was ten times as stubborn as my very stubborn difficult child, so it was a good fit. </p><p></p><p>Look for what works for your husband. Then try to adapt it for your son. As for routines, I HATE them. My mom lives by a timer. Drives me crazy. It did work pretty well for Wiz at times. I did a lot of "we will go to do X at Y time IF you have gotten A and B done by Z time". I also used community programs that happened at certain times to help me with scheduling.</p><p></p><p>Many hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 286190, member: 1233"] hi Jo! Your sig worked great. I HATE it when people say "It just CANNOT be" whatever diagnosis. I find it closes them to potential avenues of help. In my case, reading the BiPolar (BP) child gave me a lot of insight and helped me decide the docs were wrong when they considered BiPolar (BP) for Wiz. My mom spent some time in London the year we were first getting Wiz diagnosed. She knew I had a rough time finding books on Aspergers (it was over 10 years ago and not much was published here in the US that I could find) but she just happened to land in a hotel that had a large conference for teachers going on. She found an entire table of books on aspergers in the lobby. Some of it was aimed solely on teachers, some not. One of the books had a 3 page summary of traits. When mom got home and we looked through that summary together my father had every single one of the listed traits!!! Wiz didn't have that many, LOL. Part of what we did to help Wiz was to look at how my dad was raised. He was considered odd, but never ever left out because all his playmates and most of his classmates were cousins or family friends (large Catholic families do have their benefits, LOL). All the relatives lived with-in a mile of each other. As long as you trust the doctor then do what seems to work. I just wanted to let you know that some of the ADULTS here say that until they were off of all antidepressant medications and stimulants they couldn't possibly be stable. One member was on lexapro for years and finally ended up on mood stabilizers and was truly ASTONISHED at the difference. I knew her before and after the change and it was incredible. Where she seemed to be doing well on the lexapro, she is just AMAZING now. I am glad that you have a husband with Aspergers because it will let you see that a real future is possible. I was blessed because I could see my dad and that he functioned in the adult world very well. It made me feel that there really WAS help for my son. Later, when Wiz got violent again he went to live with my parents. My dad took over a lot of his care, including working out all that anger. Gpa was ten times as stubborn as my very stubborn difficult child, so it was a good fit. Look for what works for your husband. Then try to adapt it for your son. As for routines, I HATE them. My mom lives by a timer. Drives me crazy. It did work pretty well for Wiz at times. I did a lot of "we will go to do X at Y time IF you have gotten A and B done by Z time". I also used community programs that happened at certain times to help me with scheduling. Many hugs. [/QUOTE]
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