I am new to this forum but I am glad that there is a place where I can vent and try to get additional information. My concern is my 12 y/o granddaughter (gd). She is my biological gd the daughter of my 33 y/o daughter. I raised her from 3 months until 5 years, when my son (C) and his wife (K) asked me to let them parent her since I wasn't getting any younger and they didn't have any children at the time. 2 years ago they legally adopted her and now have 2 additional younger children. The 12 y/o has always been a sweet, smart (honor roll), funny, loved by everybody, etc. Since January of this year she has been slowly changing her moods, becoming more and more angrier at her mother (K) to the point of blocking her in the doorway so her mother couldn't leave the room. She has been lying constantly about everything and stealing from the other grandparents house (body wash, body lotions, etc), $$$ from her younger siblings, and even pens and pencils from teachers. When confronted about why did she do that, her response is "I wanted it"...She seems to think that she can take whatever she wants and the consequences do not matter. They have taken her phone away, her tablet, her designer clothes, and nothing changes. This child has been on more trips than I have, cruises, airplane, weekends in Orlando, and the Keys, and other beaches.... she is being treated just like the other 2 children. The biological parents have been mostly out of her life....she wanted to be adopted and even changed her name....She has been the model child. Fast forward to this summer, she has gone on family trips, etc. but there is always that fear that something is going to trigger her and get her upset... which scares the younger kids. She went back to school shopping, and was happy with all of her purchases, the family moved to a new neighborhood, so the old school where all of the kids "hated her" Is no longer an option. She was at this old school for 1 year and did not make any new friends. No neighborhood friends either. Seems like when she moved to middle school, her friends from elementary school, Girl Scouts, Drama Club, etc, moved too.... We all thought that the had turned a new leaf. 3 days into the school year, the mother gets a call to please go to the school and get her. Long story short, she told the counselor and the resource officer that she was going to kill herself. She gave different versions on how she was going to do it. With that said, she was immediately "Baker Acted" because she was a threat to herself. 5 days in the mental hospital, it didn't faze her. She was sent to a residential facility for 30 days to see if they could find a treatment for her. For the last 8 months she was going to therapy and it didn't help, for the last 2 months she started going to a psychiatrist to see if medication would help, and nope....They believe that she suffers from Oppositional Defiant Disorder. She blames her mother for everything, from making her do chores, to her had mood, etc...When her parents picked her up to take her to the 2nd facility, she never said that she was sorry, that she missed them, nothing. Today is the 3rd day in the residential facility and I am so concerned that they wont be able to help. Has anyone experienced anything similar?