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<blockquote data-quote="Deni D" data-source="post: 754322" data-attributes="member: 22840"><p>I'm so glad you replied Susiestar!</p><p>Heather, I also know of a young man with Aspergers who was violent when he was younger. He was not in my family or in my life until he was 15.</p><p></p><p>He was placed in a residential treatment center when he was 7 years old and then continued to have major problems when he came out at 9, back in again for a year when he was 16. His father has described him as "flipping out" with his father having to tackle him and hold on to him those times to keep him from hurting himself, his younger sibling, and destroying things in the house.</p><p></p><p>The mom and dad are polar opposites in disposition (dad calm, mom not) and involvement (mom involved, dad not) none of which I knew when things got real when he entered our lives(my son and mine), so that made things so off the wall I couldn't figure out what the heck was going on when this young man became a friend of my son's and I got sucked in.</p><p></p><p>The dad had custody of the three children but seemed to be totally clueless about his responsibility towards a "differently acting" child. The mom, I know, loved and cared for all of her children very much but had/has emotional issues of her own, hence why the father was able to gain custody during a 6 year divorce(him starting at 4 years old)/custody battle. I know now neither parent was capable of sorting out what he needed. Child protective services (CPS) were a very strong staple in their lives until he turned 18. </p><p> </p><p>So anyway the point is I don't know what should have been done for this young man (child at the time) but I know he didn't get what he needed. He also had and does now have a very developed conscience (unlike my own child). When he has done anything he remotely shouldn't do with me or his father he has been obviously very remorseful, after the fact. He is such a kind soul who so wants to do right. With authority figures I think he gets it more now that he's an adult but doesn't actually quite see authority, as in bosses, or the police as people quite yet, like a concept he has a hard time grasping.</p><p></p><p>He does okay now, works part time but is not working up to his potential. I do think that will come in time, or I so hope so. He also does not seem have enough people in his life right now, not enough of a life, he's pretty isolated which I also hope will change going forward for him.</p><p></p><p>The thing is with all of this is I think Susiestars examples are of a great success, a much better success and so much better examples of inclusion, and less pain, for someone dealing with the same challenges.</p><p></p><p>My particular Asperger's guy has my heart, all of my heart, forever. I miss him and look forward to visiting with him soon. He is living down south a few states from me and is much more light and sunshine than the weather down there is. I can't wait to spend some time with him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Deni D, post: 754322, member: 22840"] I'm so glad you replied Susiestar! Heather, I also know of a young man with Aspergers who was violent when he was younger. He was not in my family or in my life until he was 15. He was placed in a residential treatment center when he was 7 years old and then continued to have major problems when he came out at 9, back in again for a year when he was 16. His father has described him as "flipping out" with his father having to tackle him and hold on to him those times to keep him from hurting himself, his younger sibling, and destroying things in the house. The mom and dad are polar opposites in disposition (dad calm, mom not) and involvement (mom involved, dad not) none of which I knew when things got real when he entered our lives(my son and mine), so that made things so off the wall I couldn't figure out what the heck was going on when this young man became a friend of my son's and I got sucked in. The dad had custody of the three children but seemed to be totally clueless about his responsibility towards a "differently acting" child. The mom, I know, loved and cared for all of her children very much but had/has emotional issues of her own, hence why the father was able to gain custody during a 6 year divorce(him starting at 4 years old)/custody battle. I know now neither parent was capable of sorting out what he needed. Child protective services (CPS) were a very strong staple in their lives until he turned 18. So anyway the point is I don't know what should have been done for this young man (child at the time) but I know he didn't get what he needed. He also had and does now have a very developed conscience (unlike my own child). When he has done anything he remotely shouldn't do with me or his father he has been obviously very remorseful, after the fact. He is such a kind soul who so wants to do right. With authority figures I think he gets it more now that he's an adult but doesn't actually quite see authority, as in bosses, or the police as people quite yet, like a concept he has a hard time grasping. He does okay now, works part time but is not working up to his potential. I do think that will come in time, or I so hope so. He also does not seem have enough people in his life right now, not enough of a life, he's pretty isolated which I also hope will change going forward for him. The thing is with all of this is I think Susiestars examples are of a great success, a much better success and so much better examples of inclusion, and less pain, for someone dealing with the same challenges. My particular Asperger's guy has my heart, all of my heart, forever. I miss him and look forward to visiting with him soon. He is living down south a few states from me and is much more light and sunshine than the weather down there is. I can't wait to spend some time with him. [/QUOTE]
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