So I posted what was going to happen when I went out right? Well here ya go....
I leave at 2:30. First text message if from my oldest. "When are you coming home?" (3:15) that one didn't come to me but significant other. He didn't respond. She sends another to him he doesn't respond about 15 minutes later. I get one. "When are you coming home?" (4:07) I say why? "Bc I'm hungry" (she's 20). I tell her I'm @ the grocery store. "bring sushi" (4:12) Premade but none the less that WASN'T happening! "I hate {insert middle difficult child's name}" (4:23) "I honestly don't think Im going to give her her birthday present" - she bought her some earrings on her own (4:27)
I'm still trying to keep in my head the things I need to get at store and quickly finish shopping because I know this is escalating as I said, I knew this wasn't going to go well. I didn't end up even getting middle difficult child's birthday gift myself because the place did not have what I wanted and I learned a few things that changed my mind about the whole idea so now I have to go back to drawing board.
So back to home - oldest difficult child texts again (4:39)"When are you getting home?" A minute later middle difficult child calls on phone "Mom, {insert oldest difficult child's name while she is crying hysterically} is blaming me for everything, she's letting the dogs run loose in the house and they're fighting and she doesn't care. She locked herself in her bedroom and is just letting this happen and blaming me for everything. I'm in my room leaving her alone, I'm not doing anything". Mind you this difficult child is overly dramatic, doesn't usually say what is really going on accurately at all nor see things as they really are. Most likely what was happening was older sis was asking, perhaps demanding her to pick up her stuff and she was refusing so older sis was yelling at her to do it and yeah was probably calling her names. She might have retreated to her room momentarily and closed her door to keep her from snooping on what she was doing and to keep her out. The dogs generally do run through the house and they do play and Jasmyn is very vocal so she sounds aggressive but that's just how she is so middle difficult child always thinks they are fighting when in fact they aren't. It's older difficult child's dog and she is well aware of what is going on but middle on is always trying to control situations. That's my take on it. I ask middle difficult child what she would like me to do about it since I am at store? That the dogs probably are not fighting, she is in her bedroom and sis is in her's so just let her be for now. Not a big deal. If she would like me to get home faster then she needs to let me finish shopping so I can. She wasn't happy but said "whatever" and hung up.
Then SO takes over phone so I can continue shopping and texts back to older sis "What is she doing now besides talking on the phone {regarding younger sis because apparently she texted his phone too}" (this is 4:46 now). She replies "being a F**** C***. Telling me what to do. Starting with me. Refusing to take her S*** up to her room."(4:41) "But whatever. Clearly you guys are siding with {insert younger sis name} and don't care one bit that she has cords to hook up the phone in her room."(4:42). This would be the house phone she is speaking about that requires a base to charge. This is the only phone that younger sis is currently allowed to use but didn't have a base in her room, though we have one for it.
He texts back "Clearly siding? Based on asking what she's doing?" (4:46) Her "No from what she's saying. Whatever. I'm going to sleep they can do what ever.". Ok, they? young difficult child was apparently no even involved in any of this and probably happily playing a video game. He texts back "So can you rely on whatever she says? No more than we would."
When I'm in the car and on way home but had to stop at pharmacy for some cold medication for him as he's in side I text her and tell her "clearly we are not believing what younger sis was saying". She should know better.
When I got home the house did get cleaned as I suspected and I am both greatful and thankful. She managed to do it even with the conflict of her sister. She was up in her room when we got home. She came down after about a half hour still riled up and yelling at us over it, ranting and raving to which I just let her go. She finally settled down and calmed her voice about 7. Younger sis however still just kept up her mouth and refusal to do things and in a way did her normal antagonistic things. Youngest difficult child was still happily in video land. I had texted her a thank you and that I appreciated her cleaning up and I said it to her when she came from room.
I put the groceries away and put the rest of dinner together and it will be ready shortly now. This is all so very predictable in my house it's unreal. The level of mouth, attitude and LANGUAGE is just unreal and really needs to just stop! Certainly from a 20 yo. For the good, the language is just not good at all. It just influences the younger ones and they use it too then.
Ah well, another day done. Another MD like the rest gone by. I still have a few hours left. Maybe my bribe will work and they will settle in for the night. Oldest will be in her room so that won't be a factor. I just wanted to post so you can literally see exactly how it goes here at times and that it turned out exactly as I knew it would.......you do it enough you learn instinctively. LOL only it's just not funny anymore!
