We had a conference with our son today over the phone. It was hard but also really good. He talked about some of his resentments and also some of his own pain and self hatred. It was emotional and hard but also necessary and good. The really good thing is he has decided to stay down there in a halfway house after his 90 days at least for a couple of months. He told us this so we did not impose it which is great. I also think he still thinks that he can smoke pot and drink moderately at some point.... that worries me. However he may just have to learn the reality of that the hard way. At least he won't be living here.